Well, as far as the "backrub to orgasm" thing, I'll go into some detail, mainly because women LOVE back rubs, and it gets them in the mood for even more physical contact, plus when you do it right, it's something you are doing for them physically that they want more of. How many things aside from direct sex itself can you name that fill that bill?
Anyhow, I have giventhis girl and many others fantastic back rubs, and I can usually count on a happy ending. When you have that kind of physicalk contact with a woman, you show her that you can be gentle yet strong with your hands. It also releases bonding and plasure chemicals in her brain that make her relax and want more. A year or two ago I was invited on an impromptu basis to go to a girl's house to "help her study". I called my friend who had just come to visit, the engaged one (let's call her Carla) and asked some emergency advice as to how to play this right and get laid. Her immediate one word answer was "backrub". She had had one herself and said I would not fail to get laid if I gave this chick one. So I went and gave her one and we fucked all night afterwards.
Now as for technique, you have to concentrate somewhat on the weakest part of the back which it also feels best to them when you rub it: the small of the back. Work on that. Be sure to massage the muscles on either side of the spine, working your fingers into them. As she gets more into it and more relaxed, you can maybe work at pulling the pants down more. This is also your gateway to reaching up under the shirt, then undoing the bra, then taking the shirt off. Work veeery slowly. Just take your time, like an hour or more. Trust me, you WILL get laid.
So how did I bring this chick to an orgasm? Well I had not done that through a back rub before and this one was preceeded by my kissing her neck a little bit andrubbing her shoulders and holding her, but to get down to it, I had one of those vibrating massager things strapped to my hand, the kind that plugs into the wall and shakes powerfully. Its' also never lost on any woman that anything that vibrates can be used as an abject of sexual stimulation. But you're just rubbing her back, right? Be sure and have an excuse as to why you own one of these if you're going to whip one out though. Say something about how it helped to sooth a sprained knee you once sustained even of you bought it so you could jerk yourself off at 60 kilocycles. I was working with that on the small of her back when she told me to go a little lower than where her pants currently were at, so I pulled them down a little. That's the great thing about a massage, sometimes they tell you to remove or lower that clothing so you can get to better spots. So anyhow I was doing her lower back with this and she then starts moaning more and more and says she's going to come, that the vibes were going all the way through her hips and getting her off. Then she told me to get on her back. I said I could, but that was where the vibrator was and I couldnto continue with it if I did that. So she asked again, then I just kind of mounted her and mashed my groin into her ass as she got off like a wildcat.
It is worth saying that even though we didn't fuck, at least I did get *something* from her. That is not lost on me, but I still sit here with no prospects in sight and I'm not getting any younger. This has been a problem of growing intensity all my life and I think things are finally coming to a head. I have never know anyone to have had the sheer amount of raw rejection that I have had. No one. Then again I've really put myself out there in the quest for pussy so that means more pussy but also more rejection. I've screwed 21 chicks in my time. Not a ton of guys can say that.
I remember in junior high that we were forced for about three weeks on end to learn square dancing with the girls in our class, part of some school administrator's sick fuck idea to help us learn to "interact normally" with girls or some twisted socially engineered shit like that. None of the girls ever wanted to dance with me or picked me as a dance partner. I sat out most of the class. After a whle they arranged before class to get the guys dancing partner they wanted. I was never chosen then either. The only time I got to dance with any of them was when we were told how to formally "cut in", tap the guy on the shoulder, etc. All through that I think to this day I would have gone home and blown my fucking brains out I wasso humilitaed by it all had there been a gun in the house. The culmination of all this was an after-school dance, the first of our public school career. I went to it, whcih was just a bad idea to begin with. I went to cut in on a guy I sort fo knew and his girl. I tapped him on the shoulder and the girl said to him "Do you have to?" and he said "Yeah, he's my friend.". I just gave her this look like she was some sub-human piece of shit for saying that and I walked out of there. That was when it started, right that second when she said "Do you have to?". Ever since then I just see it as being downhill. Of those I have banged or gone out with, I had to make the moves and put in the work. They didn't exactly flock to me like flies on shit. They never really flirted with me other than just for fun or if they were drunk. If that ever happened I don't know whether I'd shit or go blind. I think I've said enough. You know the rest.
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