Girls on girls - You have questions...we may have answers

Does this mean that your name should actually be "Shy Pie" and not Sugar Pie ?

Anyway, shy is sexy and nicely challenging !

*kiss*

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Originally posted by Sugarpie

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Believe it or not, I'm quite shy around women and I often do not make the first move. It's not that I haven't made the first move, and I have hit on straight women before. 99% of the time she was in a gay club or event like Pride when I did it though, so it's understandable how a mistake could be made. I've never had a woman get upset, they've always politely told me that they werent gay and then we share that awkward moment and I walk away embaressed.

Before you realized, or admitted to yourselves that you were lesbian, did you ever give a dude a blow job? If so, did you like it, and do you wish some of your female partners had a penis? And would it be because of the penetraton factor or the fact you could give a blow job? You can answer too Lucy, even though your just queer and not a lesbian. SP ... I'm guessing no for you , with your saliva problems and all.

(sorry to be so graphic, but the thread has died down a bit, and feel free to tell me go to hell if it's too personal))

I've been trying to think of a way to answer this that is somewhat tasteful.

I was bi for a few years before coming out, I had sex with guys and gave guys blowjobs. This is kinda of hard to explain, but I preferred to have oral sex over penetrative sex. Without going into great detail, penetration is not my thing, it just feels wrong and for lack of a better term...icky. There were guys that I cared for, and because intercourse was not enjoyable for me, and I still wanted to have a physical sexual relationship, I gave them oral. You can have a relationship without any form of sex, but if you want it to progress and develop, at some point you have to decide if your just going to be friends or if you're going to be lovers, with some guys, (while I was uncertain about my sexuality) I wanted a boyfriend, so I grew to enjoy giving oral...it gave me that physical connection part of the relationship that I needed to make the relationship grow...make sense?

I've never wished for a gf to have a penis. Even when I dated guys, it wasn't the penis that gave me pleasure from the relationship, it was the closeness of doing an intimate thing with him. With girls, that intimacy is there when we have sex, no penis required.

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Originally posted by Sugarpie

...make sense?

Yes, very much so, and you were quite tasteful as well. Thanks for your answer.

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Originally posted by Sugarpie

I've been trying to think of a way to answer this that is somewhat tasteful.

I was bi for a few years before coming out, I had sex with guys and gave guys blowjobs. This is kinda of hard to explain, but I preferred to have oral sex over penetrative sex. Without going into great detail, penetration is not my thing, it just feels wrong and for lack of a better term...icky. There were guys that I cared for, and because intercourse was not enjoyable for me, and I still wanted to have a physical sexual relationship, I gave them oral. You can have a relationship without any form of sex, but if you want it to progress and develop, at some point you have to decide if your just going to be friends or if you're going to be lovers, with some guys, (while I was uncertain about my sexuality) I wanted a boyfriend, so I grew to enjoy giving oral...it gave me that physical connection part of the relationship that I needed to make the relationship grow...make sense?

I've never wished for a gf to have a penis. Even when I dated guys, it wasn't the penis that gave me pleasure from the relationship, it was the closeness of doing an intimate thing with him. With girls, that intimacy is there when we have sex, no penis required.

What she said.

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Originally posted by hornithologist

Before you realized, or admitted to yourselves that you were lesbian, did you ever give a dude a blow job? If so, did you like it, and do you wish some of your female partners had a penis? And would it be because of the penetraton factor or the fact you could give a blow job? You can answer too Lucy, even though your just queer and not a lesbian. SP ... I'm guessing no for you , with your saliva problems and all.

(sorry to be so graphic, but the thread has died down a bit, and feel free to tell me go to hell if it's too personal))

So. I find your answers interesting, SP and F1098. I have just a slightly different opinion than the two lezzies though :P I do and do not like giving guys oral. I do like giving it because of reasons similar to Sp's and F10's. I like to make the guy I'm with feel good. It may be odd, but I get more please out of giving than getting when it comes to sex. But if we take the intimate or relationship aspect out of it, and we're just talking about giving blow jobs- I hate it. I hate the act of giving head. I've got a pretty serious gag reflex and I'm constantly fighting it off hah. If it came down to having sex or oral sex, I'd take sex every time.

...Oral sex with women on the other hand... so very different lol

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Originally posted by Lucy_Diamond

...Oral sex with women on the other hand... so very different lol

This is all that matters to me sweetie.

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Originally posted by Lucy_Diamond

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I've got a pretty serious gag reflex and I'm constantly fighting it off hah.

Yes, and sometimes that can end badly ... vomit never accentuates the mood.

Thanks for all of the great answers ladies.

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Originally posted by hornithologist

Yes, and sometimes that can end badly ... vomit never accentuates the mood.

Unless thats a fetish you have, but....nah, just doesn't do it for me

Ick....vomit fetish?

First off, thanks for starting this thread. With the exception of when some guys ask stupid questions, it has been fascinating.

My question is; are you aware of any reliable techniques for inducing g-spot/squirting orgasms? My wife really wants to, and gets really close when riding me, but cannot get past the point where she feels like she is going to pee.

Hmmm, I guess I have to say that I'm not convinced that squirting isn't something made up by the porn industry, or like everything in porn it's greatly exaggerated. I believe that some women may release a fluid at orgasm, but rather then the mysterious female ejactulate people want to believe in, it's actually urine.

I know people are going to disagree with me, but thats how I see it.

I do believe that women can experience different types of orgasms, such as clitoral, vaginal or g spot. Everything I've read, to achieve a g spot orgasm you have to directly stimulate it with fingers or a specially shaped dildo. So I guess try that?

Enlightning and confusing..........

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_ejaculate

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Originally posted by F1098

Enlightning and confusing..........

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I'm not disputing that some fluid can be released during orgasm, I know from experience that it can be. I just don't believe in the mass "gush" of fluid. To release a pint of fluid as the article suggests, it has to be urine.

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Originally posted by Sugarpie

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I'm not disputing that some fluid can be released during orgasm, I know from experience that it can be. I just don't believe in the mass "gush" of fluid. To release a pint of fluid as the article suggests, it has to be urine.

I believe there was a thread here a while back on this subject. Playboy did a series of articles on the biological side of human sexuality a while ago and female ejaculate was one of the subjects. One of the doctors stated that female ejaculate was mostly made of urea which is found in urine but is not urine on its own. It kinda mixes with other fluids to become pee. I have found that some(not most) women become significantly more moist after orgasm but I have a hard time believing the "gushers" you see in porn videos are actually real.

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Originally posted by davey45

I have found that some(not most) women become significantly more moist after orgasm but I have a hard time believing the "gushers" you see in porn videos are actually real.

Agreed completely.

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Originally posted by Sugarpie

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I'm not disputing that some fluid can be released during orgasm, I know from experience that it can be. I just don't believe in the mass "gush" of fluid. To release a pint of fluid as the article suggests, it has to be urine.

No argument SP....just another reference point, however imperfect.

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Originally posted by F1098

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No argument SP....just another reference point, however imperfect.

I don't know...I could be wrong, just because I've never experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. How about you F, have you ever experience that "gush"? Or ever known someone who has?

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Originally posted by Sugarpie

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I don't know...I could be wrong, just because I've never experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. How about you F, have you ever experience that "gush"? Or ever known someone who has?

Yes....big gush when I have that occasional "super climax". For me anyway, this is not to be confused with missing a stop at the bathroom on the way to the pillow, ya know ?

If you don't wanna answer publicly thats fine...but how much are we talking here?