ok. so. I hadn't realized this was started so long ago
oops. Sorry SP for leaving you to do all the answering. ha
So I'll spout out a few answers before I
head out for a run fall all the way down the steps on my ass because of this damn ice storm we had overnight. Not an awesome way to start the day.
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THIS. yumm.
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OK, fair enough.
I'm sure lesbians exist because when I start chatting up a chick she says; "FUCK OFF Loser, I'm a lesbian!!!"
So when two or lesbians meet in a bar, do you sniff each others butts to determine pecking order?
How do you decide who does what? Feminine intuition? Secret handshake/boob grab?
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In my case it's normally a lot of standing around wondering if she's actually gay or not. A secret handshake would make things much simpler.
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I'm with SP, tons of wondering. Hah. I've actually never been the first one to hit on a girl b/c I'm terrified that I'm going to hit on a straight girl and she'll just be pissed off at me. I've only ever been involved with girls who I knew had identified as lesbians. That being said. I think hornithologist's question could be addressed next as it could relate to this.
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Why do some lesbians try to look and act like men?
I don't understand this because ... If a chick is attracted to women, why dress and act like a man if you're trying to pick one up?
Rachel Maddow and Ellen Degeneres are two chicks that aren't that manly looking, but they aren't that feminine looking either. The short hair, the collared shirts under the vest or sport coat every damn day. Always pants and never a dress.
There are others who are even more manly ... "butch" they're referred to, who make no attempt at all to look good.
Just curious.
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I was going to get to it...I just didn't really know how to answer.
I guess what I can say is that everyone likes different things right? Some guys dress more casual than others, some have beards some don't, some guys have long hair, others have crew cuts. I think when a woman chooses to dress in a "butch" way, its just more noticed by society, because its not what people are accustomed to seeing. I don't believe that the majority of butch lesbians want to be a guy, thats not the case. I just think that they're more comfortable and identify more with males roles in society, and to some extent they may take that on in the way they dress.
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Thanks for answering ladies. That helps me understand a little better.
SP - I didn't mean that they wanted to be a guy, just was wondering how they expect to pick up a hottie looking like that. But you explained it ... If they think like a guy, they're going to act like one a little bit and neglect their appearance.
888SPO - Yes, I think I understand. Kind of a "When in Rome" explanation, with a "tribe" growing accustomed to a look, and actually finding it appealing.
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So. I have a few insights for you. [You may not have intended it, but I think you actually asked a few separate questions, I don't see it as multiple ways to ask the same question.]
1. Some lesbians may dress more "butch" or tend to wear men's apparel because it makes them stand out- it's a statement- "I am a lesbian. Lesbians, feel free to hit on me-I'm into girls." If you see a girl with a short haircut, and wearing men's pants with a polo or a sweater vest suit ensemble, you're usually pretty safe to think that she's into girls (note: as you said, this does not fit all lesbians. I'm not trying to group all lesbians together.)
2. Just as one man's taste is different than another (one guy can be attracted to skater girls
while another likes such girly girls
while another likes... you get the point. Girls have the same tastes... we can like different things.
SP identifies as a lesbian. She herself is a hot sexy adorable beautiful gorgeous girl (just to list a few adjectives that describe her
) who tends to dress more feminine, and from what I know, tends to be attracted to other feminine women or as lesbians call them, "femmes."
-Correct me if I'm wrong on anything here, Sugar.
However, I identify as queer. I like girls and guys. I like girly girls and I like girls who like to wear men's styles. Some may say that I'm selfish and want it all. Haha maybe they're right. But the point is: I am attracted to many different types of people and sometimes this "butch" or masculine style of dressing is a turn-on to me.
I tend to focus on the pretty face and a good body more than what they're wearing on said body.
3. I really don't think it has anything to do with dressing manly or acting manly. I think each individual person is going to dress and act the way that they feel most comfortable. For some girls that is dresses and heels, and others that's polo shirts and Chuck Taylors.
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But anyway, in keeping with the glow of things....SP, does it ever happen that a lesbian or so-called "bi-chick" turns back into a *
regular straight* girl? I do not mean to offend, if my question ends up doing so for whatever reason. I kinda need to know your thoughts on this. Yeah--it's a secret as to why I need to know.. Um, no need to break out your stick. You and I is friends, SP.
*fixed.*
I know your question was directed towards SP, but I felt left out
Just as some girls date dudes and then one day realize that they're actually into girls, I think the opposite can happen too. However, there's nothing you can do to make someone turn from a lesbian or bi into a straight girl. If there's someone in your life that you're either in a relationship with or desperately wishing you could be, the best thing to do is just sit down and talk with them to see how they identify themselves or to see if they're having doubts with how they've been living. This may be the case, but either way, you're going to have to give the girl her space to think things through because I can guarantee that she is going to be confused as fuck during this period in her life.
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Now that my wife is getting a little older and has put on a few pounds, the whole, "lets go to a strip club", "I wanna bring a girl home", "lets see if we can't seduce your hot co-worker" lifestyle I was used to has gone by the wayside.
Please tell me how to get it back?
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Dear New,
A note of consolation. You are not alone. Same situation exactly here! And I, too, am still wondering how to get those old sexy feelings back.
Signed,
MissingTheOldFantasies
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Talk to your wives. Tell us how it goes.
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Dear Sugarpie , If two women get married how do they decide which one is going to quit putting it out after the honeymoon is over?
Signed
Curious in the Sticks
I believe this is referred to as lesbian bed death:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lesbian_bed_death ...though I think this wiki is a bit of bullshit saying that in general, lesbians have less sex. I think it's just harder to classify "sex" for lesbians. Everyone has their own description of what lesbian sex really is.
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Dear Curious In The Sticks,
If you had to have some sweaty grunting guy on top of you over and over again, wouldn't you quit putting out too?
Regards,
SP & LD
haha iLike.
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Dear Lesbians,
Which is better, a double-ended dildo session, or some scissoring-leg humping type movements?
-Curious in Kalamazoo
hilarity. I'll take the question seriously though I believe you were just looking to be an ass
So. Lesbian sex is many things. Often people think it's just scissoring and dildos. This isn't true. There is oral, there are strap-ons, we have fingers, lips, tongues, and thighs! and there are a bajillion different things you can do with all of these and as many positions. Hah. But. I'll speak from my own personal experiences.
I've actually never used a strap-on or dildos whilst having lesbian sex. So I can't honestly say of the two options which is better. However, I have used them by my own accord and I have and am currently, dating a guy. So obviously, I like this type of stimulation. But it's not for all lesbians. And yes, scissoring is something that can be done. It feels good but I wouldn't say it's the most amazing position. As for "leg humping type movements," this can actually feel great. It's all about who you're with, what the mood is, what their body is like, and how individual people like to have sex. Everyone is different. ...Just as hetero sex has many different positions and it feels good to change things up, same goes for lesbian sex.
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Girls tend to shit talk guys a lot for being untrustworthy and all that bullshit right, so like, does being in lesbian relationships make it easier to avoid that type of thing, or are girls just as fucking awful as men?
Umm. I do think girls tend to say "all mean are pigs. blah blah blah..." and that's just as much pigeonholing men as saying, "all gay men have lisps and act effeminate" is pigeonholing all gay men. It's upsetting that a group of people can be classified together because they have one quality that is the same, yet all of the other thousands of varying qualities are not taken into consideration.
That being said, lesbians can be just as unfaithful or untrustworthy as any other type of person. It depends who the people are in question. I, myself, am a pretty trusting person. I'm willing to believe that I should be able to trust my partner unless they give me reasons not to. Many girls have jealousy issues and I think that carries over to lesbians too.
...I think this may be my longest post ever. Hah. I now have to get going for class. Will answer more later.