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spanky1 17 years ago

Trust me that does not matter. My X Wife only had her period once every 3 months (I know ladies lucky huh) When she got pregnant with my son she had her period once a month like clockwork through her entire pregnancy. I was 24 at the time also, so the best thing I can tell you is to enjoy the baby while you can. Being a Father is not that bad and they can bring you a lot of joy. Just take things as they come but do have a DNA test done. Now days they will let the mother drop child support but she has to be willing to do it. Sorry I cant help any more then this.

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Originally posted by lsdforme_333

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SOMETHING MAKES NO SENSE....YOU SAID SHE WAS 6 WEEKS PREGNANT...BUT YOU FIRST TALKED TO HER A MONTH AGO...AND THEN HAD SEX A WEEK AFTER THAT.....YOU SURE THIS COULD BE YOUR CHILD?

I'm pretty sure it's mine. She said she had a period in between the last time she had sex and I was the last one. Of course, she could be lying. It was around a week and a half longer than exactly a month ago.
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#2946381

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bossboot 17 years ago

hey you made the choice to do the act, not the child. You may say that oh it's not a persosn, but science says otherwise, and even the possiblilty that abortion involves a human life being terminated is enough to abhore it. Now I say you should let her know that you will be there for this child. You made a mans decision by having sex, so be a man and take responsiblity for your actions. Yea it will be inconvienet but what are the other options? Killing a baby, or having the child grow up fatherless? You know which decision is morally sound, make it.

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#2946382

[Deleted] 17 years ago

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Originally posted by rocknthefreewor

1) She can not absolve you of responsibility for the child. No court in the world will allow that as it isn't her rights she is giving up, it is the childs rights.

2) DO NOT AGREE TO BE THE FATHER!!!!! Make her prove it. She may be using you as a meal ticket. Talk to a lawyer if she keeps it up and have him send her a letter stating that if she attempts to make you the father she will ahve to go to court to prove it.

3) Do not believe that shit about "I won't ask for anything." She can't do that. If she ever winds up going for welfare she will have to cough up a name to collect from.

4) Doesn't matter how you feel now or if you want a kid. You made the bed and now you have to lie in it. She has all of the rights regarding abortion and in some states it is illegal to make any threats or use any form of coercion to get her to abort.

i can only quote RTFW on this. thats the right words and put together really well.

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#2946383

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Jullexxx 17 years ago

Condom is cheap and easy way to prevent unwanted pregnancies..

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#2946384

Lvl 8

D4kk0n 17 years ago

Wear a rubber dude.

... there's a whole lot worse out there than knocking a girl up by having unprotected sex.

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#2946385

Lvl 29

rainbowdemon 17 years ago

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Originally posted by Jullexxx

Condom is cheap and easy way to prevent unwanted pregnancies..

Good advice. But in this case it's like locking the barn door after the horse has escaped!!

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#2946386

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lsdforme_333 17 years ago

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Originally posted by bossboot

hey you made the choice to do the act, not the child. You may say that oh it's not a persosn, but science says otherwise, and even the possiblilty that abortion involves a human life being terminated is enough to abhore it.

Actually, science says it is not a person. I don't believe in killing another human being. Before the 8th week of pregnancy the child is still in the embryonic stages. Ideally, I would be the most OK with that as a choice before the 7th week because that is when organogenesis begins. It is only around the 9-10th week when a baby is actually termed a fetus. There are many things to abhor in this world but an early-term abortion is not one of them, in my opinion.

BTW, I know I can't make her have an abortion and I'm not trying to pressure her into one. I let her know that she should have no romantic notions of us raising the kid together but that I would help pay for what it needs as well as be as much a part of its life as I can. I'm just not happy that this happened this way, there is already a great number of people that have been screwed-up from how they were raised. I know that I am one of them.

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#2946387

[Deleted] 17 years ago

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Originally posted by rainbowdemon

[reply=Jullexxx]
Condom is cheap and easy way to prevent unwanted pregnancies..

Good advice. But in this case it's like locking the barn door after the horse has escaped!!

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maybe its time people remember to put it on FIRST???
fucks sake, its not difficult....might take a few secs, but better that...then whats happening to this
guy now....or worse still, STD's.

@ lsdforme_333 - dont care what you think religiously or politically...but dont post about it, those discussions are not allowed. Comments i can overlook...but opinions is just asking for a return fire from someone opposing you and then shit hits the fan.

although im pro life, hate abortions....i hate even more that men are not allowed in the decision part of it, might be in her body....but it was created in help by you and it carries your DNA. I mean, you cant choose to abort or not, but youll have to pay for it whether you want to or not.

fucked

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#2946388

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lsdforme_333 17 years ago

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Originally posted by Latino

[reply=rainbowdemon]
[reply=Jullexxx]
Condom is cheap and easy way to prevent unwanted pregnancies..

Good advice. But in this case it's like locking the barn door after the horse has escaped!!

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maybe its time people remember to put it on FIRST???
fucks sake, its not difficult....might take a few secs, but better that...then whats happening to this
guy now....or worse still, STD's.

@ lsdforme_333 - dont care what you think religiously or politically...but dont post about it, those discussions are not allowed. Comments i can overlook...but opinions is just asking for a return fire from someone opposing you and then shit hits the fan.

although im pro life, hate abortions....i hate even more that men are not allowed in the decision part of it, might be in her body....but it was created in help by you and it carries your DNA. I mean, you cant choose to abort or not, but youll have to pay for it whether you want to or not.

fucked
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Yeah, I know about the whole condom thing. I had brought one but I left my bag in the car and that's where it was. It was obviously a stupid decision not to get it. I've been having lots of trouble trusting certain women too much. I figured she would be on top of that shit, she's already had one kid and an abortion. That's why I think she may have been lying about the pill. I mean, I know it's not 100% but if you take it everyday it's less than 2% that you can get her pregnant. I had an ex that was on the pill and she hasn't had any problems. Now I know. It was just an incredibly stupid thing to do. I didn't know her well enough, I could've gotten an STD. I need to get some boxers that have a condom pocket in them.

I agree arguing about abortion is not going to go anywhere but in circles. Though, I think it's a shame that political and religious topics can't be discussed more openly. I'll try and keep it to a minimum.

#2946389

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Dr.Teeth 17 years ago

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Originally posted by lsdforme_333

OK, I just found out this week that I may have gotten a girl pregnant. I've read tons of information about this stuff but I would like to here what you lovely people think about it. I'm freakin' out, man! Here's the situation:

I recently broke up with my girlfriend of 4+ years. I love her to death but we were having problems with her excessive drinking but that's a whole other story. A month ago, I was talking to one of my old friends from high school. We went on a date and the next weekend I came to visit her. We ended up having sex but I got totally creeped-out by the experience and have talked to her once since then, not until last week. She told me she was on birth control when I asked her (we'd already started to fuck. I know<-stupid!) and I asked her if she was sure it was ok. She said yes and I trusted that she had been taking it as directed. Last week, she told me she got a slightly + result on a pregnancy test and that we should go to plan parenthood together. I was relieved that she felt that way, I was in no position to raise a kid. I told her not to freak out just take a piss test at a doctor's office to be sure. She did and she is pregnant.

Now she is saying that she wants to keep the baby. She already has a 3 year old boy who is being raised without a father. It's heartbreaking. She has a high school education with an ok job but I don't think she can support two kids. I am 24 and a senior in college. I've got one semester left before I graduate. I have no job and can barely support myself. I live off student loans and have accrued an already massive debt. I was planning on going to graduate school.

I really think that bringing a child into the world in this situation is wrong. I have no feelings for this girl. I think she's emotionally unstable and so am I. I don't want a kid to be raised this way because I went through some of the same shit growing up. I don't think we would be able to adequately provide for a kid; emotionally or financially. I also live in another city. It's definitely the wrong time with the wrong person.

I don't want to pressure her into getting an abortion when she doesn't want one. I think she's crazy and could possibly have lied to me about the birth control in an effort to have my kid. I can't raise a child and I don't want her raising it either. She's currently 6 weeks pregnant. She says she won't ask me for anything but I don't want that kind of life for the child. Anyone have any advice or can relate? Any personal stories about this are appreciated.

With your massive debt i doubt a diamond ring is in order

But in your situation i would get married and raise the kid right and have a mountain of debt

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#2946390

Lvl 6

lowdow 17 years ago

Maybe you can make her ...disapears...

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#2946391

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NDakRaceFan 17 years ago

I don't think an abortion is the way to go.

Think of adoption!!!!! There are many couples in this world that would die to have a child. (like my wife and I) We've been trying and trying but can't seem to complete the process. So now we are going through the adoption process.

There are many agencies that will help you two make an ADOPTION PLAN!!

Check out someplace like Lutheran Social Services

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#2946392

Lvl 18

hacb 17 years ago

your w a n k e r..... dont you stand up like a man, and do the right thing. you did it 2 yourself. sometimes it is better 2 think with your head ( the 1 on top of your body )instead of your dickhead. I dont feel sry for you. I hope she gets the baby, and that you have 2 pay her for 18 years. I also hope that you are gonna be there for your kid. by the way, welcome 2 the father role. :-)

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#2946393

Lvl 15

[M] 17 years ago

i have to agree man. Take responsibility for your own birth control or take responsibility for the life you create.

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#2946394

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JeyMan 17 years ago

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Originally posted by lowdow

Maybe you can make her ...disapears...

(If you're using sarcasm, say it in advance; if not... just shut up!!)

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#2946395

Lvl 4

melancton 17 years ago

Hi,

simply put I've yet to meet a woman yet that missing one period leaps to the conclusion of pregnancy.

So I'd make the more logical assumption the kid isn't yours - and deny all knowledge and require her to have a paternity test if she wishes to name you as the father.

Unless of course you want to get back with her - then lets face it you have two options

1. ignore the potential of it being someone elses and accept it as yours (but bear in mind if shes a drunk that screws about do you want to get attached to a kid and then hav her say its not yours).
2. tell her you want a paternity test, but you dont care about the result.

Really your call - but it sounds bloody convinient.

SP.

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#2946396

Lvl 4

melancton 17 years ago

And re 'life you create' - if a condom bursts are you responsible?

If the woman forgets to take birth control intentionally are you responsible?

If I cant chose to create life, and I cant chose to end it - why should i pay for it? I should be allowed to walk away when I realise a child is mine - on the grounds I initiate no further contact with the mother or the child.

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#2946397

Lvl 8

AxisBoldAsLove 17 years ago

mr. jedi of pussy licking, just use your jedi powers and make it so Luke or maybe Han solo is the father, then you can carry on with your Grad studies. (sarcasm) ok, seriously, life has a way of throwing curve balls at you, or said in other ways, life is what happens while you are busy making plans. That means that this is not waht you wanted or expected out of life, but these are the cards that you got dealt. maybe you think its a shitty hand of cards - but try make the best of it. I was in a damn similar situation, and it is a very heavy issue on your emotions. I ended up signing off my paternal rights - the woman ended up getting back together with her ex boyfriend, who married her. they adopted the child. I married another woman, who I was in love with, and we now have 2 children. Things worked out in my case. Hope things work out for you. Oh yeah - one more thing - I did the DNA test because like in your story, it was not clear at all if i was the only camel spitting down the well if you know what I mean. Turned out i was the father. I tried to keep in contact with her, but she was so mad when I broke up with her that she wouldnt let me have anything to do with her, no phone calls, nothing. I am happy that she had the baby and that she married the man (her ex boyfreind) that she truly loved. I felt like a dirtbag though, tell ya that.Good luck, never forget that things may all happen for a reason. maybe that kid gonna save your life someday - who knows right?

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#2946398

Lvl 8

sullen91 17 years ago

damn that sucks bro. when i broke up with my ex she started saying that she was prego. i know that shit is a scary thing. i'm not a fan of abortion but then again yeah its our resposibility to wear the condom. sorry man wish i could give you the right answer that wouldn't hurt anyone.

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