Opinion boys...can it work again? Thanks everyone for the advice!

Hi mate! I went through this recently and also asked for the wise advice of this board (do a search). Things panned out pretty much as predicted by everyone that replied. That is, i tried to save it and just did my fucking head in. i now know i should have run 100mph the day i found out she cheated. don't waste another second thinking about her. there are millions of great woman out there, and they all want to meet nice guys like you!!!!!!

And the same goes as Craig offered, if you want to talk, contact me, i can steer you onto a few great books, resources, and tell you some of the stuff i used to get me through. good luck.

Well, I'm sorry you have to learn this the hard way. YOU CAN'T TRUST GIRLS!!!!
See, you were the "good one". And, they wonder why men are such dogs...lol.

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I think she is just going to repeat the actions whenever she goes to the US to visit her family...I wouldn't trust her...but hey...that's just me...betray my trust once, and you've lost it forever...

You're like the Forest Gump to her Jenny. Keep the faith, partner, and it'll all work out fine in the end.

RUN FORREST, RUN!!!!!

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Originally posted by HighGuy

RUN FORREST, RUN!!!!!

that's funny!!!! it's probably true too.

fuck that WOMAN. unless u are some weirdo that no other woman would like (doesn't seem that way) move on. I get the notion that maybe this was your first real relationship .... get out and find some ez hos to get your rox off and maybe you'll find someone else in the process.
love always seems to come whenever u least expect it. don't go looking for it and certainly don't wait for it.

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I have been married 4 years. Got married when I was 40. I have been with a ton of women and have found that, you can't change who YOU are as a person. YOU can change your hair style or your car or job, but you can't change who YOU are deep down in side. She will never change. She has a wondering eye and will always have that. You may forgive her but you will never FORGET what happened. And when times get tough in a marriage (and they will), instead of working it out, she will run to someone else. Trust me, and thier are guys who will concur with that. You seem like a decent guy, good for you. Bite the bullet, let the pain sink in, ( use scotch to numb that feeling lol) and after about a week or two or even three, you will start to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You will realize that she f**ked up and you will not look back. She will call you, but dont answer. Find another girl, thier are so many out thier. Live and learn. Just dont go back to a bad situation. You will never find the peace in your life that you once had. Good luck.....

there are so many girls in the whole world.....
I dont understand you....Has she a pussy made of gold or some thing?
face it,leave it move on...there 'll be other girls ...there are ALways other girls.....
everywhere you look

Just one more voice here telling you to cut your losses and move on. It hurts, lots of things in life do, but you'll get over it and be better off for it. You'll find the right one, but she's not her.

I'd find me a woman who really wants to be with me, not 2 men.

God damn she's one stupid broad. Dump that silly cow and move on. Nobody, I mean nobody should be a backup plan. Just plain stupid, I ask you to move on sir!

Sad story my friend. She wants you, but she is with another guy??? Isn't that weird? She wants the better half of you, when you're changed she wants you to call her en then she will come back???

A relationship is for better and WORSE.

Ditch the girl.
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burger167 I know you see the comments on this post & you may not agree...Dump this girl fast!
Are you a security blanket?
Tell the tramp you have spoken to your friends & they all say the same thing.

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You fuck this girl again & you will lose out big-time.
Good luck d00d

Lotsa wise advice here and you should LISTEN! (cept for the where's da nude pics one)... Mind you have you got any of her?
But seriously, I would just add the following thoughts:

She likes you, but doesn't "love you". She wants to keep you in reserve in case she doesn't find anything better, but only because she recognises you are a decent fella and you have some pretty good prospects... Isn't that selfish?

Nice, decent chicks (worth keeping) don't play selfish dumb games like this. BELIEVE IT!!
This girl will either;
1) run into some other shmuck, marry him, have several kids and get fat(ter) & uglier, then sleep with his best friend, divorce him for half of what he has, blow most of it and end up doing $5 tricks in the local trailer park or;
2) become a famous "actress" adopting the name "Dianna Deepthroat" or similar, and the next time you see her is on the cover of her latest "epic" in the dark corner of your local video store. Sure, she will have a few bucks for a few years, but her hips are wider than her shoulders and she uses pillows for tampons.
Or similar....

Picture yourself 10/15/20 years from now running into this chick, and hear her saying how she should never have left and you saying how glad you are that she did cos life is just sooooo goood nowwww!!!!!

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Originally posted by HighGuy

[reply=EricLindros]
tl;dr

Is there a Cliff's Notes version of this thread I can read?

Girlfriend of 6 years goes to the U.S. and cheats on him,
he finds out,
they break up,
they fuck a couple more times before she moves back to the U.S. where the other guy is waiting,
before she leaves, she says she loves him and wants to be with him in the future, not now

Pretty much, she wants him to be there just in case shit doesn't work out with this guy or the (many) others that will follow - he's her back up plan.

He wants to know if it will work out.
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Excellent summary!

My reaction to the question: forget her - find someone who cares about you always, not just when you're around or convenient. Unless you don't care that you might alwys be merely a menu choice for her, and ot her favorite meal - forget her.

Maybe some day you'll get together again, but since you aren't right now... Just break loose from her and move on with your life.
It'll hurt like fuck but it's definetely worth it in the end. Good luck!

You sound like a nice guy. I would say that once someone cheats, they'll do it again. For now, forget about her, see other people and get on with your own life. If she comes back into the picture, see how things go, but don't keep everything on hold just in case she may be 'the one'.

Good luck x

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Originally posted by HighGuy

[reply=EricLindros]
tl;dr

Is there a Cliff's Notes version of this thread I can read?

Girlfriend of 6 years goes to the U.S. and cheats on him,
he finds out,
they break up,
they fuck a couple more times before she moves back to the U.S. where the other guy is waiting,
before she leaves, she says she loves him and wants to be with him in the future, not now

Pretty much, she wants him to be there just in case shit doesn't work out with this guy or the (many) others that will follow - he's her back up plan.

He wants to know if it will work out.
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Muchos Gracias.

According to this, this girl needs to be kicked to the curb, as she's totally fucking with your head, and that will never stop, no matter what happens. And you don't want to be her bitch.

Let her go. At least you found out before you married her. Think of all the money you have saved before the divorce.Live life. Plan for today, hope for tomorrow.