I´m so fucked up and could need some advice

What's your damn problem dude? This is twice you've cheated on your gal.

I hope all 10 years of this relationship are shot down the tube. She deserves someone better. Someone that isn't gonna go screw some other chick just to get their rocks off.

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Originally posted by socalm

My money is on that it was the same girl he cheated on before.

*she had a very tight and tiny body, cute little a-cup breasts,* last time.

*they are both quite goodlooking. similar type of girl, both big tits,* now.
You are wrong, socalm.
The bhoy cheated her twice, guys like him should get shoot in their kneecap.

No I meant he was cheating on the same girlfriend, not that he was cheating WITH the same girl, I agree with you. And there was some guy standing up for him last time, stating he shouldn't tell his girlfriend. She has a right to know what kind of scum she is dating.

Castration, thats my advice for you Pophai. Go outside, use a cleaver and lop your dick off. You obviously have absolutely no control over it, and all it seems to do is make you feel good and everyone else bad. Do us all the favor.

I was in a carbon copy of this trainwreck ONCE, many years ago, and regret my actions to this day - never, ever again.

I would say that the reasons for my infidelity were intellectual/emotional rather than physical (although they were physical too), since the 'other' girl and I shared interests, sense of humour, taste in art and music, even our professions, while my partner (then and mercifully still) and I are very different in nearly all these departments (sense of humour aside). And I truly believe that I did fall in love with her - I miss her even now, think of her most days. Google her way too often.

However, don't mistake my intention in posting here: NONE OF THAT SHIT MATTERS. There is NO excuse for cheating.

Cheating on someone you love is a fucking appalling crime against common decency, however you dress it up or justify it, or however heartfelt your reasons. If you really want someone else more than your current partner, then for fucks sake BREAK-UP FIRST - it happens, it's sad, its bloody RISKY, but YOU are the one taking the risk, so at least you are honest, sincere and have the courage of your convictions. Otherwise you're a lying no-good piece of shit who wants to have his cake and eat it. And I hate to break this to you, but someone had to: YOU CAN'T.

And to do it TWICE. Sheesh, you really are a gobshite.

So, my advice is twofold: (try to) forget the other wom(e)n, accept that you are a worthless scumbag, and get on with trying to live your life in a better way. And I wouldn't tell your partner about any of this - you'ld only be doing it to salve your own justly painful conscience, and hurt her in the process - it's your cross, bear it alone. I told my partner, after it was all over, and I know that I shouldn't have. She forgave me. Lucky me. What was in it for her?

Or just take that chance and leave - your partner is blatantly too good for you anyway.

Decisions made while meditating are always correct.

when every one says listen to youre heart and you do you still listen more to youre cock and head.. grass isent allways greener on the other side! could be some thing to think about? dont stress the marege just because you want to feel like you have dont the right thing... leave the girl that you have meet 2 times sure shes good i bed and its fun... but arnt all relationships fun in the begining? i tell you what some one schould have told me 1 year ago that was stay with youre GF dont go off with the other girl.. but if you deside to leave youre GF and keep metting the other girl make sure you have no feelings left for youre GF it will make things worse! i promis you...

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Originally posted by Pophai

we then went to my hotel and it was fantastic. we fucked until the morning

that's your problem, you should have kept your pants on if you were serious about marrying the other girl after 10 years, just my opinion

Well, seems to me that you are not really committed to the girl friend. 10 years is a long time to wait to marry. Or, inside you are testing your self. Sounds like the gf is comfortable, but the new girl is exciting. What do you want in the long run?

I have to laugh here.....Yes,I posted a comment on here and told you all of the road I went down.I was married at the time.
Everyone is bashing the daylights out of this guy and you all are being such goody goodies.Give me a break.If there were a way to have you all tell the absolute truth I'll bet that some<not all> but some of you have been down the road and may ever be involved w/ another woman right now.
Don't get me wrong.....cheating isn't right but seeing that this is a world wide audience you can't tell me that some of the bashers aren't in the same boat...JMHO.

he wants as many pussies as he can get... personally I'd rather have one pussy as often as I wanted, not the other way around. I'm married, first time and only time... and got that way without cheating on anyone prior to that. He probably hasn't married him yet because he'd be a shitty husband, but is fun to be around until something better comes along. I hope his GF is playing him the same way he's doing her.

What's pathetic is his squabbling about his emotional guilt.

i believe love is a decision and not just a feeling. There is always going to be that interesting, amazingly hot girl, that you feel so connected to. Happened to me just before my wedding, but i had decided to be with the person i'm with. Relationships have to be built on firmer stuff than time spent together and being amazing in bed. Newsflash, what if in a few years you can't get it up and have a huge-ass beer belly? Does that give your partner the green light to trade you in for a better, sexier model? What goes around comes around.

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Originally posted by akdizzle

ok i read the other thread.. and its really hard to still ahve any respect for u. cheating is lower than shit to me. im trying to not judge you by ur actions. but im sorry u cheated end of story, if u have any decency break up wit ur girl coz shes straight up wit u and u go around sleepn. too bad

how do we know she's being straight with him, she could be fuckin every other guy that comes around too.

but if that's not the case I think you should come clean with your girl about all the cheating, and vow to her and yourself to never do it again. then if she can forgive you, and still be able to trust and respect you then she is the true keeper, she's time-tested and proven.

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Originally posted by wfjh8432

I have to laugh here.....Yes,I posted a comment on here and told you all of the road I went down.I was married at the time.
Everyone is bashing the daylights out of this guy and you all are being such goody goodies.Give me a break.If there were a way to have you all tell the absolute truth I'll bet that some<not all> but some of you have been down the road and may ever be involved w/ another woman right now.
Don't get me wrong.....cheating isn't right but seeing that this is a world wide audience you can't tell me that some of the bashers aren't in the same boat...JMHO.

thats true...most people here like to seem theyre all high and mighty..

but we all know by the confessions thread that alot of you fuckers are WAAAAAY worse than this guy..

Don't leave her, if it's just the "other pussy" syndrome. In that case you'll regret it - i'll bet!
All the "new love" and butterflies will be gone after a while and you'll have the same situation again - but then with 2 sad girls and nothing left. Or even worse, she could dump you. You never know...

On the other hand - if you are really sure that you could'nt change anything in your current relationship, that you stopped caring for each other for years now, that it has become kind of sad for both of you and you'll miss not too much of her, then you should consider do split your ways.

I believe that family and a deep and caring relationship is what brings true luck to a man's heart. Just fucking around with "the other pussy" is something that is left to the youngsters who not yet care.

Anyway, i know that it's a hard time for you.
But time works for you. Your thoughts will get clearer after a while and you'll see what it is that you really want.

Best wishes!

http://www.whatboyswant.com/forum_read/907120/1/


maybe you need to change?

hey man, just been in the same situation myself in the last couple of weeks.... Truth is, the relationship that you are in has an investment of Ten Years.(quite an investment). The new one is always more enticing because its new. New becomes old and we are back to suqare one. I thought I could have both. You cant! But the key to a good relationship is "communication". You are comunicating on a different level with the new girl. (excitement).

I feel for you cos I ahave been there, but you know the answer.
Good on ya mate

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Originally posted by InvisibleGod

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maybe you need to change?

Yes I already pointed this out in a much more entertaining fashion on page 4

Drop the chick you have had like a rented car. Trust me whats better than new.... ohh and to the people crying about "how could you cheat" he's a fucking guy hes doing what comes natural! My motto in life "Find em, Fuck em, Leave em". Maybe 1 day ill get serious but never marriage NEVER!

Convince your old girl to swing. You can fuck the new chick on the side and have it be o.k. Man, I wish monogomy wasn't the expectation in marriage. There are so many relationships that wouldn't be as fucked up as they are if we could have multiple partners.