boyfriend wants anal.what to do to change his mind

Not exactly hairy Swiss.I cannot stand hair at all on my body,except,my head and not trim down there

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Originally posted by J-Swiss

For me the hair would be more of an issue then you not liking anal.

Every guy has things they like/need and things they don't care about. The idea is to find a partner who's into the same kind of stuff as you. For me shaving /waxing is crucially important but anal isn't important at all. So I would never date a hairy girl who likes anal because it just wouldn't work.

I just think you need to find a guy who's more in line with what you like. No anal, lots of hair and clean.

i'm not in shaving/waxing (as they all know here) but word! you should watch out for the RIGHT one!

@J-S: if the hairs are "clean" and it smells ok it'll do for me

I like anal sex ONLY when the girl likes it. It's nothing that I need and I'll only do it if she wants it.
Lube is never a turn off.

As for the older men part of this conversation. I can honestly say that I didn't start trying to please women or even care about what they thought until I was maybe 24 or 25. I don't know why men are so inconsiderate when we're younger but we are. That's why the experienced ones on here are trying to tell you to stay away from this guy if he continues to pressure you because then he'll think he can get you to do whatever he wants and it will never end. He'll never respect you or care about what you like.

I also don't think you're chances are any worse on running into a guy who's only looking for sex with older men. Actually you're probably better off with an older man. Like I said, older men know how to treat women much better, in and out of the bedroom. Plus an older man is going to love the fact that he found a nice, sweet girl and is less likely to take advantage of that.

well I didn't mean hairy all over when I said hairy. I just meant hairy down there. For me that's a total deal breaker, you could be the hottest girl in the world but for me the hair down there would be enough for me to not be interested. For a lot of guys like Muad they prefer it though.

So like I said ya just gotta find a guy who likes you for the way you are and who also likes the things you like.

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Originally posted by Thamuz

I like anal sex ONLY when the girl likes it. It's nothing that I need and I'll only do it if she wants it.
Lube is never a turn off.

As for the older men part of this conversation. I can honestly say that I didn't start trying to please women or even care about what they thought until I was maybe 24 or 25. I don't know why men are so inconsiderate when we're younger but we are. That's why the experienced ones on here are trying to tell you to stay away from this guy if he continues to pressure you because then he'll think he can get you to do whatever he wants and it will never end. He'll never respect you or care about what you like.

I also don't think you're chances are any worse on running into a guy who's only looking for sex with older men. Actually you're probably better off with an older man. Like I said, older men know how to treat women much better, in and out of the bedroom. Plus an older man is going to love the fact that he found a nice, sweet girl and is less likely to take advantage of that.

o damned... that one was TO old!!

I don't think age necessarily has anything to do with it. I've been trying my ass off to please every girl I've been with since the very first one. I'm sure I wasn't that great in the beginning but I definitely put in the effort to learn and to try to please. Some guys aren't built like that. I always cared a lot about my reputation and since a girl is going to run to all her friends with the details of how you performed I always figured my performance needed to be top notch to open more doors (or in this case legs) in the future.

It is worse for girls.boyfriends say things about me to their friends and they are not discrete at all

Yeah little too old on that one.

You could very well be right about that J-Swiss. It may have just been me. I just woke up one day and started to realize I was so bored with the boring sex and figured I'm gonna try and have some fun with the next one. When the next one came, I tried all sorts of different things, even talked about what she likes and when it was over she loved it. That's when I finally realized that making it GREAT for the girl you're with is how to have GREAT sex. It also opens the girl up to wanna do new things for you.

Which is probably why you're not enjoying anything sexual Natasha. You need to find someone that wants to take the time needed to satisfy you hint hint ( older men )

@J-S: way to go!

@the young lady: i think, the boy should try first. show him that thread - and tell him, my mate will come to see him - to give him the right feeling!

(sorry mod's, picture is posted
because of scientifically reasons)

NO porn in the lounge, I would have normally left that for the Dros. But got damnit..

Seriously, what the fuck.

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Originally posted by Natasa

It is worse for girls.boyfriends say things about me to their friends and they are not discrete at all

Not all boyfriends do that and the ones that do need to be kicked to the curb immediately. When guys do that, that means all they care about is what they're friends think and it's just a game to them to see who can have sex with more girls or who can get a certain girl to have sex with them.

Thamuz is right. When guys brag like that it's cause they're young and immature and still in that sexual bragging stage where it's not about the sex or the girl it's more about the conquest.

Every time you post I'm more convinced that you're just messing with the wrong guys. The stuff you list as "normal" for guys isn't normal and it's only the slime balls who do that stuff. Once you find yourself a normal guy who's interested in your needs as well as his own I think your opinion on all of this stuff will change drastically.

Just for the record I'm only 27 myself. So it's not like you have to be 40+ to know this stuff

Sorry,but i judge from what i've seen...

I totally understand just keep reminding yourself that you're only 18 and you haven't seen much yet. Don't be so quick to judge all guys based on the few unclean uncaring guys you've dated. We're not all the same just like all girls aren't all the same.

I'll second that comment as I'm only 27 as well.

I think the problem is that you're judging from your high school experience and when you do that then yeah.... that's what you're going to come up with. You need to broaden your horizon. Hang out with people you don't normally hang out with. If you hang out with a lot of other girls who also have this problem then chances are you're all hanging around the same group of guys who are like that. Don't be worried about what's popular and what everyone else is doing. Just do what makes you happy.

Natasa,

You are dating scumbags, and it sounds to me like you are giving yourself to them just to keep them interested in you. Until you build YOUR CONFIDENCE in yourself and refuse to settle for less than you want in a man you will end up with guys like this. There are some good guys out there, but you have to look hard for them. There are also some good girls out there, and good guys don't need to settle for a second rate bimbo. Be what you want yourself to be, expect to be treated with respect, and hold off on the sex for a man that treats you the way you deserve to be treated.

You will make a great deal of progress in your relationships if you work on yourself first, then seek those men that deserve you.

Good luck darlin'.

Let him crack one off in your ass and then tell him you didn't like it so you don't have to do it again.

Also, don't tell him you've done it before.

Everybody wins, except you asshole for a little bit. But...sacrifices.

lol butt sacrifices.

is that a girl advice????????????????would you reallydo that?

your picture is nice though

Yeah see you're not the only girl. That's Quaker_Dip, she's pretty cool

she's TOO cool i think