guy opinion needed.

I can't believe it, me eyes are either deceiving me, or ramsann has found the soft side of trust...

hmm, I think it is clear that he is a douchebag, but you let him get away with it cause you dont think that you can do better, so as much of a dick as he is, you are enabling him, but letting him get away with this kind of behavior. You need to work on yourself and figure out why you cant tell this loser of a boy to go fuck himself and the next time you will see him is in court to get child support... and you can move on and find a man who will treat you better. We all think that you are a beautiful woman, but the only person who doesnt think that is you....

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Originally posted by Demodad68

I can't believe it, me eyes are either deceiving me, or ramsann has found the soft side of trust...

shhhhh dont tell others

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Originally posted by EricLindros

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Why are people on the internet different than people in real life?

Sure, they don't know as much about you personally, but on the flip side they're more likely to be completely honest. Or at least some of them are.

I agree with Lindros on this point, while people on the internet do not know you personally they can provide an objective point of view and offer their thoughts and opinions based on their own personal experiences which may or may not help. advice in any form is still advice. oh and i voted "wrong" in this thread.

I'm not sure what kind of person would do such a thing. It sounds like you already know what's right. But then, it depends on the status of the relationship currently. If you are still together, then it is wrong by any stretch and insensitive.....most guys tend to be really insensitive anyway. We just aren't wired for that. But there are exceptions. I always say, no one can treat you poorly without your permission!!! What you tolerate once sends a message that you can be talked into and convinced to tolerate other things. YOU dictate how you are to be treated. And don't allow him to control what's right and good for you!!!

Cruizer9 has a point here, Ramsann, It is time for you to kick him into touch, and tell him never to come back And Mean it!
He won't change no matter what he tells you. Say no to him and mean NO! - He has no right to treat you like that.
Best of Luck

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Originally posted by ramsann

its just hard leaving.

Almost anything truly worthwhile, is hard to do. If it weren't, everyone would do it. The first mistake has already been made, every mistake from here on out just makes it worse.

But this is just food for thought, not any kind of assumption about you on my part. There is an old saying "For every gorgeous woman, there is a man who's tired of her shit". Manipulation can work both ways, and we only have your side of the story here. From everything you say, it sounds like you need to move on. Just make sure that you aren't contributing to the problems before you do. He is your son's father. That may not be a reason to make everyone miserable for the rest of your life, but it certainly is a good reason to make sure you're making the right decision.

I have never leaned a lesson from a good experience, and I am sure you are going to learn a few good lessons from this experience. What you do with those lessons is up to you.

Totally wrong!

You already know the answer so why even ask? I broke up with my girlfriend after 4 1/2 years in January. Why, because I came across a pic on her friends camera of her making out with a dude on a cruise ship in the begining of the month. A week after giving her a promise ring. She knew I had a zero tolerance policy. She tried to blame drinking, but that is no excuse. He will be no good for your child and. Seems to be a scumbag. Disappears for the weekend, fucking bullshit. That should be enough right there. What kind of man leaves a pregnant girl at home for the weekend and doesn't call or even text. Fucking loser. Unless like me I have a cabin up north and get extremely poor reception. I still would drive the 3 miles every night and callmy gf. Get his child support and ditch the bitch. You'll find someone better I promise. In the mean time rely on your family and friends for support. Delete his ass from pictures, your phone , and your life. Block his number and everything else. Don't talk to him at all because he will without fail continue to repeat these behaviors because you tolerate it. I'll even do you a favor. If you dump him and promise not to take him back ill give you the promise ring I gave her. I've been looking for a worthy person and although I don't know you it seems fitting. A promise for a promise, to end the cycle. It even comes in a pretty little blue box. Yep I'm just that cool.

If all you say is true then kief jones is right on...listen up...its the best way to deal with the situation...I know from experience!

i still haven't heard from him since thursday. can't do this anymore. and i've texted a few times today. no reply.

thank you guys.

good luck

Girl...you already know how I feel about you, so let me just say that its his loss. Idiot of the year award...seriously.

can't think of the adequate insult for that asshole!!

as harsh as kirjjones said it, it is true. Dump this loser have your son, get child support and rid your life of this loser. He doesnt desreve a chick as cool and as hot as you...

Not just wrong but completely disrespectful to you and your impending child! Not a good role model for a child either! He isn't respecting you so why allow him to show that to your child! Surround yourself with people who respect you and that you respect and your children will do the same! IMHO

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Originally posted by ramsann

seriously, if one of you guys say something nasty, i will NOT tolerate it. if you haven't seen around the forum, i don't take jerks lightly.

... wow!



iv been in love befor, its tuff to get over it, but this dude sounds like an asshole... sounds like a punk. id tell him to go fuck himself. your a beautiful girl, you seem like a cool chick, you wont have a problem finding someone else, a good guy you deserve

I know you don't know me any more than a random person on the street, BUT, quit beating on your own self esteem.
You know he is playing you. You have as much as said it yourself. He is a loser.
Do you wish to have your child see this as an acceptable way to treat someone that they are in a relationship with?
I apologize if I come across harshly. I just REALLY dislike this kind of person.
Dump him and get the child support from his ass, that is all he deserves from you.
Sincerely
One of the crowd.
(but one with morals)

oh ya and by the way,
You are very beautiful.
Pregnant or not.

really this kind of situation goes both ways. A month after i started dating my now ex-gf i caught her sending naked pictures of herself to her ex. And being stupid i let her talk me into staying with her and she said it would never happen again. Only later i find out she had also been going to his house and just "hanging out". If you cant trust them FUCK them. Trust is the main component in any relationship, and if you cant trust them then chances are its just not going to work out, no matter how badly you want it to.

Just my take