Divorced with children...

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Originally posted by Swiss407

My opinion on this is far too much attention is placed on kids these days anyway. My parents divorced at 9 and since I'm not a pussy it didn't have any long lasting effects on me and I didn't become a basket case like many other kids. Kids are weak these days cause parents are weak. My dad raised me to be strong and deal with things like a man and so when they got divorced that's exactly what I did although I was only 9. We moved down to Florida from Philly and I saw my dad once a year. I assumed the position of the man of the house and if anything it made me stronger.

i really dont think anyone thinks their kids are going to go crazy or have a breakdown or something, but you can't deny that it causes a lot of hurt.

im pretty sure people are just worried about subjecting their kids to a lot of emotional hurting, i really dont see anything wrong with worrying about that. my parents split up when i was 14 and it was hard for a while. i didnt lose my shit either but we definitely were NOT a "happy" family for a kind of long while.

if i was married and had kids i wouldnt want to put my kids through that either. i do agree though that people shouldnt just decided to stay together for that reason, because after a while the tension and fighting and general unhappiness in the house can be worse for the kids than the seperation would be

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Originally posted by FeFeHumHum

if i was married and had kids i wouldnt want to put my kids through that either. i do agree though that people shouldnt just decided to stay together for that reason, because after a while the tension and fighting and general unhappiness in the house can be worse for the kids than the seperation would be

Exactly the reason I left my first husband.

I saw my son shaking and crying after one of the final blowouts between us. That was when I realized it had gone too far.

It was no longer a matter of whether I was going to give up on something I might be able to repair. It was a matter of do I put my son through this indefinitely, or do I cut my losses and, forgive the expression given my gender, man up and do what's right for the lives dependent on me and my state of mind. When you boil it down like that, it makes a lot of otherwise tough decisions a lot simpler.

well i have tried dating women that have kids and its always been the same result. the father just keeps on complaining to the mother that she is trying to replace them with me and just keeps on making trouble. i myself now will not date anyone with kids cause of past experiences. its like the fathers cant seem to realize that someone else will be in their kids lives. but as for me i never want to go through a divorce. i might not actually ever get married cause of the thought of divorce. it really seems like now days couple dont wanna try to fix issues but just walk away and not try. its really sad. i dont have any kids myself cause i havent met anyone i would want a kid with. and since alot of women have kids now days i guess im just screwed with dating them. oh well. i enjoy being single and being able to do anything with any woman i want. to the sinle parents out there, goodluck.

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Originally posted by NaughtyGypsy

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Exactly the reason I left my first husband.

I saw my son shaking and crying after one of the final blowouts between us. That was when I realized it had gone too far.

It was no longer a matter of whether I was going to give up on something I might be able to repair. It was a matter of do I put my son through this indefinitely, or do I cut my losses and, forgive the expression given my gender, man up and do what's right for the lives dependent on me and my state of mind. When you boil it down like that, it makes a lot of otherwise tough decisions a lot simpler.

I sure wish my boyfriend would come to the same realization.

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Originally posted by jean5318

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I sure wish my boyfriend would come to the same realization.

What do you mean?

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Originally posted by NaughtyGypsy

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What do you mean?

She wants him to man up.

@NG: Hows my sandwich coming?

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Originally posted by Honda_X

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