Considering Adultery

I apologize in advance for the long post, but maybe you could help a guy out....

I work in a very professional office setting and most of my female co-workers are fairly unattractive, save one beautiful chick. I am married with two children, and so is my very cute co-worker. Over the last few weeks we've been getting quite familliar with each other in our lunchtime conversations, usually steering the topic toward sex, and talking very openly about what we've done in the past. We both have openly admited that before we were married both of our married partners had cheated on us while dating or engaged, but we got over it and married them anyway. I've mentioned to her that if given the opportunity, I would "get even," and cheat myself but it would have to be worthwile for me to do so. She has thought the exact same thing and is seeking to find a one time fling herself.

Today I get two calls from her on my cell, which has never happened, and both conversations turn to old partners, sex, and our shared desire to cheat on our spouses. Neither of us has mentioned hooking up with each other yet, but that sexual chemestry / tension is definitely there. I don't believe this attraction to her to be love, or lust for that matter, but rather the opportunity to have that revenge sex I've desired.

I realize that if we do decide to hook up, there may be consequences for both of us. We should talk it out and be completely comfortable with the situation before proceeding. I'm confident that it will only be a one time thing to get it out of my system, and I think she feels the same way.

So anyone out there with any experience in commiting adultery, any tips, stories, or advice (good or bad), please post. Thanks for the help!

when she starts talking about it, say we should hook up , but it sound like your kinda of joking if she into it, go fucker.

take pics and videos and post them on here

i dont think cheating is ever a good thing, but i also dont think people can help who they fall in love with.... and love can change the way you see everything. it changes how you would normally react in a situation, it drives you to do things you shouldnt or wouldnt normally.


if you were falling in love with this girl, at least (if nothing else) there is love there and that gives at least some meaning to what youre considering doing.



revenge sex? come on.

She's into the pics and vids thing so stay tuned....

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had cheated on us while dating or engaged, but we got over it

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but rather the opportunity to have that revenge sex I've desired.

Anyone else see the contradiction here?

Maybe "revenge sex" isn't the proper term. I'll probably get some critisizim for saying this, but I do still love my wife. Even so, I've always had this underlying anger at what she had done. By going through with sleeping with my co-worker I believe that the anger would be lifted and we would again be "equals."

I'm wearing my nomex underwear now, let the flaming begin!!!!

so since its "revenge sex" are you going to tell your wife about it afterwards?


i bet you told your wife you forgave her too, didnt you.


is it going to make you feel better afterwards? that going to make your life a little better.



dont lie to us and yourself. you wont tell your wife afterwards. youre just making excuses in your own mind in order to get a little pussy.

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Originally posted by rainbowdemon

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had cheated on us while dating or engaged, but we got over it

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but rather the opportunity to have that revenge sex I've desired.

Anyone else see the contradiction here?

yes..



revenge sex is fucked up dude..
sounds childish and irrational to me..

but your life..

it will screw everything up

guaranteed.......

get out of ur relationship..........its meaningless.......

Dr.Phil post

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youre just making excuses in your own mind in order to get a little pussy.

And no other man has done that before?

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Originally posted by FeFeHumHum

so since its "revenge sex" are you going to tell your wife about it afterwards?


i bet you told your wife you forgave her too, didnt you.

Actually, I won't, and I did not forgive her either. When it happened we had a large argument, and she fully admitted everything, even said she expected me to cheat on her at some point (although up until now I didn't think I ever would).

From what you have written, it could be that you and she are more interested in 'revenge sex' than each other. It sounds like both of you have emotional baggage because of your spouses' infedelity, and you need to talk to your spouses about it. 'Revenge sex' is only going to make your married lives worse. You suggest that you will talk to her about the consequences; but the consequences are not between you and her.

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Originally posted by erichard77

Actually, I won't, and I did not forgive her either.

then why the fuck you stay with her?
why she stay with you?

i think this is all just bullshit and you want some justification for cheating..


do what you want mate...you dont need pervs on a porn site giving you advice on cheating,
you dont need us to justify it for you..
you can do that on your own apparently

From someone who has been there...

The revenge isn't going to make it better. In fact, you'll feel worse.

You'll also then equate the circumstance to, "When she did it, we were just dating. But now I've betrayed my WIFE with whom I have TWO KIDS. I've sold out my family for this, and it wasn't worth it."

Further, since you're having feelings of revenge, you'll naturally project that on to her. You'll suspect she wants revenge now and is actively trying to get it (or worse yet, at times you'll want her to get revenge so that you feel redeemed).

And yeah, you might try to hide it... But I have never seen someone get cheated on that didn't know it unless they chose not to see it.

And here's the kicker... If you're still angry enough about the incident many years ago to want revenge now...

Then getting it will not ease that anger. If my eye hurts, poking someone else's out doesn't cure my own. My eye still hurts, except now I feel bad for the other blind kid too.

It's a sign of deeper problems that you're still angry (and justifiably so in my opinion). Railing some other chick won't make your wife turn suddenly loyal after the fact. It doesn't work that way.

If you want to cheat, then cheat. But it's not going to help a fucking thing. It's only going to make things worse.

And you'll still be left with the base problem of fidelity to solve, except that now you're also feeling guilty to boot.

It's a mess. If you're thinking of cheating, just leave. It's easier on everyone, especially you.

Like NIKE says... JUST DO IT!

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Originally posted by erichard77

I believe that the anger would be lifted and we would again be "equals."

You may or may not still be angry with her, but then those feelings get to be replaced with feelings of guilt...........Think about it!

I think you are going to do it. Please get some pictures if she's hot.

If you already thought about it, then it's too late



just remember post pics and vids if you do it.

Here's an idea. Sit your kids down and let them watch. If you think its a crazy idea, you might be right. Alot like committing adultery. Look them in the eyes the next time you consider adultery and see what reflects back at you. I cant imagine having to look into my childs eyes knowing I had done that to her mother and broke up our home. Good Luck. I wish you and your family the best.