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Virginity - is this worth waiting? (and how much :-)

Starter: bestman Posted: 20 years ago Views: 5.4K
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#1265233
Lvl 12
Ok, let me introduce You guys the situation - I'm 20 old, male VIRGIN... Yes, I know, shame :-) and that's my problem:

GIRL N 1 - I meet her over 2 months ago, we don't live in the same city (100 miles away), we listen similar music, have the same hobbys, both speak "the same language" and... well, I think I'm in love with her (just a little bit :-) She's very pretty, slim, high and the best - she's a virgin too :-) (biiiiiiggggg advantage :-) but... she's only 15 yo :-( (and she isn't, you know, "lolita girl", she is very childish, we havn't even kissing yet, by now I treat her like a little sister or a friend (but I want more of course ;-)

GIRL N 2 - I meet her last weekend. I'm not a "partyman". but I went to a little high school buddys party, and she was there. We have a talk (I didn't tell her, that I have girlfriend) and she gave me her phone number... She's at my age, we don't have nothing common, and her character is veeery different then my (she likes parties - I don't, she likes rap music - I don't, she likes alcohol - I don't etc), she is pretty, has sexy tits but she has a little bit fat ass (I don't like this in woman) and I'm 99% sure she's not a virgin (anyone seen 20 yo partygirl-virgin?) But she... likes me :-) I feel that she wants something more then a shitty, party talk :-) This girl is the one which people used to call "horny girl"

And the million dollar questiion is: which one to chose? First look - N 1 (but notice her age and character - maybe I would have to wait 2-3 years to take her treasure :-) and, as I said before - we live away from each other, that's may be a problem and may cause end of our relationship after 1 or 2 years (she could be tired of the love for a distance, or she could find another man...) and it would be tragedy - 2 years of waiting for nothing :-) N 2 is "easy" girl, and after few dates I would get to her panties :-) but I don't know if I would feel comfortable with experienced girl... So, maybe the perfect girl for a virgin boy is a virgin, maybe I should wait a little bit, see her only for a few hours every month (and travel 100 miles every time :-( but get a "romantic first time" and a love for a longer time (possibly "the One", or maybe take the girl which lives nearby, have carpe diem, fast sex, lose the virginity and "use the youth" for a couple of years (leaving seeking "the One" for a mid 30 :-) Is N 1 girl virginity worth waiting? Something special? Worth waiting 2-3 years and shitload of bus travels? Or maybe better to have 100 girls like N2 for next few years :-) I'm really horny (well, I was waiting for 20 years, I don't know if I will least next one...) but this virginity-thing makes me more patient... Guys, help me! Advice me something! What YOU would do, if You were in my shoes?
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#1265234
Its not a shame dude... AT ALL
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#1265235
Lvl 14
Stay away from the 15 year old. This is not just for legal reasons. I think a guy who is 20 and lusting over a 15 year old girl has a bit of a problem. While it's only a five year difference, at that age and her lack of any experience, the difference is greater than you realize (even though you are both virgins) and you will be using her for your own, selfish needs.

Go out with the second girl. Please note, I am not saying you need to sleep with her, that is an entirely separate decision, but I think you could learn something about dating and life in general from the second girl.
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#1265236
Lvl 9
Nail them both? You're 20 dude. Waited long enough.......get over it and get to the sex part!!!
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#1265237
Lvl 23
Let the younger one grow up a little 1st and get with a bunch of other girls now so when you finally get the other one you'll bang her real good. You know, practice makes perfect.

That "romantic first time" ain't gonna be what you think dude. Unless you consider awkward and quick romantic. Get some experience 1st, then when you get with the one you really like you'll already know what you're doing and can make it romantic for the both of you cuz you won't be all fumbling around and stuff.

And plus, if you end up not eventually not getting the other one you'll be kicking yourself for passing up the ones you could've gotten.
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#1265238
Lvl 12
Ok but the question is: I think I'm like a woman when it comes to sex :-) - I want my 1st time something special, will girls like N 2 give me "the one, special moment" memorable for a years? Or maybe only "true virgin love" matters?
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#1265239
Lvl 23
Hmm... I guess it's up to you. I lost mine to a girl I only knew a day or two. I still remember it but it wasn't "special".

It seems to me you already know the answer you're looking for.
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#1265240
Lvl 12
I think about it a lot every day since the last weekend... From one side I have girl which loves me, we have very good relationship and posibly this may be the love for the rest of my life... I just need to wait a little... From other side there's LUST! Terrible lust - I guess every guy on this world understands me :-) - WBW babes and long evenings in front of the computer isn't enough no more - I want "something real"... 2-3 years ago I wasn't interested about sex, because I wasn't feeling attractive, but now I grow up, I'm not skinny 15 yo boy no more :-) and I want to use this a little... But I'm still thinking about this virginity - one or two years of waiting may be worth this... This may be the last chance in my whole life to have sex with a virgin...
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#1265241
Lvl 13
If I were in your shoes.. I'd probably go get some nicer shoes; the shoes you're wearing don't seem to attract the ladies.


No.. Virginity is worth having. Congrats on waiting so long; wish I would've.

It's really not my part to say anything about it, since it's your life, and you have to live it. However, it is totally up to you, and your partner. If either of you isn't ready yet.. then it's not worth going after. On the other hand, if you're both ready and willing.. give it a shot.
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#1265242
Lvl 13
Don't force it dude...when you let it happen naturally thats when its best. If you feel that you have to lose your virginity then your not going to enjoy it. But when you're with a girl that you truly care about it's going to be so much better.

That being said don't let any of us how to live your life.....when it feels right go to it....until then enjoy the other aspects of life.
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#1265243
Lvl 17
Cool im not the only virgin on wbw!! It is worth every penny to wait until marriage!!!
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#1265244
Lvl 10
From a female's point of view, if I was the 20 yr old guy. I would go with the party girl. The other girl is too young for you. Legally and emotionally. and to wait 3 yrs for someone 100 miles away is unlikely for both of you. Either you or she could meet someone closer and you dont want to lose out on that if it were to happen. At 20 yrs old, you should bang all the girls you can. You'll only be single and young once
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#1265245
Lvl 18
Hit #2 now.

Wait 3 years for #1.
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#1265246
Lvl 15
Bang the living hell out of the second chick dude.
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#1265247
Lvl 21
Take me word. It's coming from experience. The 15 year old is goin to be 18 soon, and then wanting to run around with her friends and do stupid shit. She's gonna see that having a boyfriend is unfair.

Trust me. I was 20 and dating a 16 year old. Bad idea. Good pussy, but bad idea.

Go with a more mature young lady. You'll be happier and alot better off in the long run
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#1265248
Lvl 9
I don't think you should lose your virginity to an underage girl unless you're also underage. Maybe I'm different from other people, but I still feel strong attractions to women (that I don't know well) that resemble my first time. You don't wanna be in a situation where you're lusting after 15 year olds for the rest of your life, do you?

If you're desperate for sex, try hanging out with girl number 2 more. Even if you go nowhere with her, you're likely to meet many of her friends, which you may like more than her.

....I'd suggest not even talking to the 15 year old anymore.
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#1265249
Lvl 21
Don't go with the 15-year-old. Either do the other one, or try to meet someone more your own age that you like.
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#1265250
Lvl 14
It comes down to values mate, values. If my duaghter was the young one, you wouldt want to even see me?
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#1265251
Lvl 11
dude, fuck this stigma associated with being a virgin at, OMG: 20 something!!! do it whenever the fuck you feel comfortable and ready. and do it with someone who is of mature mind!
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#1265252
Lvl 12
I think some of You didn't understand me properly... I don't mean "fuck 15 yo RIGHT NOW" I mean "fuck 15 yo LETER (1-3 years). And situation "fuck N 2, wait for N 1" isn't accepted - I'm monogamist :-)
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