Question for guys only...cuz I know girls are gonna trash the question!

Before we go any further with this thread and people start slamming me...remember: we're all looking at porn as a fantasy. You check girls at the mall, the gas station, at a bar. You may not act on it but there's always that thought of "what if..." Those of you who say it's NEVER crossed your mind (involved or single) must be the holiest of men and I'd like to buy you a beer! This is just a question...there's nothing that has happened. Just how many of you would turn your fantasy into reality? I'm not asking should I or shouldn't I...I'm asking would you or wouldn't you.

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Originally posted by Vagina-king

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Vagina-king...I know, I know. The dilemma lies here. Think about it: If you had a chance with Jenna Jameson...once in a lifetime, even...and no one would know (this wouldn't even be for bragging rights...just your own skeleton you cut tuck neatly in the corner of your closet), wouldn't you?

Jenna....no, but I see what you're getting at.

It would be a hard decision, but if it were me, I think(and hope) I would hold back.

With the 5 year GF, have you ever noticed any bisexual tendencies? Would it be possible at some point to suggest a 3-some?
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3-somes are fun but for the rest of MY life, 3-somes are history!

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Originally posted by mudflap

I know, This was for guys only, but you know that shit don't stay secret.She has one and only one person she can tell everything to and she will. The problem is that person has one too! Everyone does. Wait until you're married, then try to bring up the threesome or swinging. It sound like the web site girl would be into it, half the work is done

This is what I'm curious about, mudflap. Being a woman, your comment is about getting busted...good comment, nonetheless! No betrayal thoughts?

I would not. I look all the time. She knows it. I look and comment when she is with me. I have had hot girls from high school tell me in an obvious come on that they had a crush on me in school. But I do not know how you can really love someone and cheat on them. Animals do that kind of shit and I am better than an animal.

I would not. I look all the time. She knows it. I look and comment when she is with me. I have had hot girls from high school tell me in an obvious come on that they had a crush on me in school. But I do not know how you can really love someone and cheat on them. Animals do that kind of shit and I am better than an animal.

Good luck with the decision.

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Originally posted by oxygenetic

While tending bar at a prominent bar in town, she bellies up and you get to know one another and become friends..so much so that you confide to her that you know her "secret" and have seen her site and pics all over the web. Still, she remains friends. Years later, she confides in you that she has wanted to get it on with you since the day she met you

thats where ya fucked up my friend- you shoulda been fucking her when she "bellied up" then you wouldn't be telling this story about u getting married and having to make decisions etc etc. just my opinion

Bust, I appreciate your fidelity and the fact that you hold yourself to a high standard. Not many people left in the world like that. However, I'm not talking about a friend from high school. Who is your fav female singer, movie star, or porn nymph...someone you'd most likely NEVER meet and someone that every guy lusts for. She wants you...one night...hush hush. No one will eeeeeeeevvvvvvvveeeeeeeerrrrrrr know. From what you're saying the guilt would get to you. BUT....would you be willing to even entertain the idea of compromising that guilt?

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Originally posted by franklin

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While tending bar at a prominent bar in town, she bellies up and you get to know one another and become friends..so much so that you confide to her that you know her "secret" and have seen her site and pics all over the web. Still, she remains friends. Years later, she confides in you that she has wanted to get it on with you since the day she met you

thats where ya fucked up my friend- you shoulda been fucking her when she "bellied up" then you wouldn't be telling this story about u getting married and having to make decisions etc etc. just my opinion
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Originally posted by oxygenetic

Bust, I appreciate your fidelity and the fact that you hold yourself to a high standard. Not many people left in the world like that. However, I'm not talking about a friend from high school. Who is your fav female singer, movie star, or porn nymph...someone you'd most likely NEVER meet and someone that every guy lusts for. She wants you...one night...hush hush. No one will eeeeeeeevvvvvvvveeeeeeeerrrrrrr know. From what you're saying the guilt would get to you. BUT....would you be willing to even entertain the idea of compromising that guilt?

oxy, it is not about guilt.

Entertain the idea? Well entertaining the idea is what most of us do here, I suppose. But you did not ask if we would entertain the idea, you asked if we would do it. That answer is still NO.

If it was a 100% guarantee that you wouldn't get caught, transmit any diseases, get her pregnant than you need to decide if you can live with it because she won't be hurt. That will never happen, guys always get caught! maybe not right away, but they brag or the girl tells something will happen. Go somehwere nobody knows you or get a pro. Don't do it close to home.

I'm glad my bf is out of town I probably just gave him some ideas. Lol

Sounds like you're taking this kinda personal, bust...at least it sounds like I'm being scolded...but then it could just be a text thing. The reason I mentioned "entertaining the idea" is because you've made it plain as day you would not actually go there. Notice the word "even." Anyway, you're entitled and your girl most likely has a good man. This thread, I think, is a bad idea. So here's the deal: Anything happened? No. Will it? It's so freaking tempting but, no. That's all I was getting at...how tempted woud you be? Enough to go there?

So before anyone considers me anymore of an asshole for a posed question (incidentally, if it offended you, I whole heartedly apologize)...I think I'll bow out, keep fantasies to myself, and start topics on Strawberry Shortcake (the cartoon, not the actual cake).

Mods...would you, could you lock this...or talk amongst yourselves, if you like.

Yes!

Oxy, not taking it personal, just answer the questions posed.

Sure it would be tempting. Even fun to entertain no doubt.

Not scolding either. Just putting it out as I see it. I know it is not a universal opinion. Sounds like the question was more just a part of you 'entertaining' the idea. Probably best that it stays that way. Good decision. Good luck in keeping it that way and best wishes on the wedding and family.

Two Words.......THREE SOME.....talk to the soon to be wife and geter done.

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Originally posted by bustMall

Oxy, not taking it personal, just answer the questions posed.

Sure it would be tempting. Even fun to entertain no doubt.

Not scolding either. Just putting it out as I see it. I know it is not a universal opinion. Sounds like the question was more just a part of you 'entertaining' the idea. Probably best that it stays that way. Good decision. Good luck in keeping it that way and best wishes on the wedding and family.

Thanks, Bust!

I have to say that after being with my current gf for 7years I wouldn't go with anyone else for four reasons 1) I'd feel that I had betrayed her. 2) I would feel so guilty that I'd have to tell her 3) If it happened once would it happen again with this girl or another. and 4) I love my gf too much!

If you can live with all of that, then it's upto you at the end of the day.

Oxy, isn't that what temptation is all about: entertaining the idea of doing something wrong. I think every man and woman here has the temptation to cheat but there's nothing wrong with being tempted. Thats being human. YOur only wrong if you give in. Now if your really in this situation then I would suggest to not do it since your in a long term relationship and thinking of marriage. I've had several wonderful offers of no-strings sex from female friends but when you make a commitment to someone you should stick to it.

Don't do it. Think how your girlfriend would feel if she found out.

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Originally posted by mudflap

I know, This was for guys only, but you know that shit don't stay secret.She has one and only one person she can tell everything to and she will. The problem is that person has one too! Everyone does. Wait until you're married, then try to bring up the threesome or swinging. It sound like the web site girl would be into it, half the work is done

This is very true,nothing is a secret. I would have to leave it as a fantasy if it were serios with the GF.