Are You Happy In Relationships?

So, there is a little more to the question I'm asking you than what's written in the title, so pay attention here for
a second.

Okay, so, when you're in a relationship, are you usually happy? Or are you in it because you like sex and companionship?

How often, if ever..do you fall in love?

When you aren't in a relationship, do you feel the need to be in one? Do you miss the feeling of being with someone, or just the sex?

Does not being in a relationship ever effect your attitude towards life?

Okay, as usual, I'm going to tell a little story to put the thread in perspective. I have a friend right, pretty cool eh? Anyway..he is like, girl crazy I guess you would say. His first real relationship lasted a year, and the girl ended up cheating on him, even though he was actually quite out of her league. While he was in the relationship he would act like some cocky, manly dude..like he was the hottest shit ever, despite the fact his girlfriend was god awful.

This has continued since, whenever he has a girlfriend, no matter how gross, he slides into this idea in his head that he is some playa or something. He was actively trying to cheat on his last girlfriend just for the hell of it. (She dumped him over facebook, by changing her relationship partner from him, to another guy)..which was an incredible burn. So, whenever he's single, he's this mopey "I'm missing out on life" depressed guy that is super quick to anger and sadness.

He's just a good example for how a relationship can effect your personality as a whole. His last girlfriend, started after my "I'm now a monk" phase, where I have sworn off wimminz, so he would invite me places, and then make out with this chick just to make me uncomfortable. Classy gent. She was ugly, but it was pretty uncool, then like I said, dumped him on facebook lol.

I'm different, when I'm in a relationship, I quickly start to dislike everything about the girl, I nitpick at their little imperfections, and eventually their personalities just piss me off to the point where I hang up on them after a conversation, I usually spend a few seconds insulting them afterwords. Then I start to add up how much money it costs to see them, and weigh that out against time and I get more and more irritated with it all, until I break up with them, and then am happier alone. I am truly happy alone, sometimes I miss sex, but I never miss being in a relationship. Ever. Well, sometimes.

So come on, if you've read all that bullshit, make a post...let me know how it is with you.

Do it, sir.

My God, dear...

You have successfully answered none of the question asked.

I'm pretty strange when it comes to relationships. I'm rarely ever in them but when I am I tend to get more attached than I'd like and when they end I'm all sad and depressed. Once I get over that, I quickly go back to loving the single life though. I always miss the sex when I'm not in a relationship but I prefer to be single overall. Woman are certainly a handful and I'd rather not deal with trying to figure someone out who can't just straight up tell me what it is they want.

This last girl I was just with for about 7 months and the sex was so unbelievable. She let me do absolutely anything I wanted and she loved it. She was the kind of girl I always see in these videos and I've never been with a girl like that. It turned out we just weren't able to stay together for complicated reasons but I was so destroyed by it. My problem is that I think it may just have been the sex that I was in love with. I was definitely a different person when I was with her. I didn't care so much about what other people think and I felt better because it felt like my life was going somewhere or I accomplished something.... I don't know.

Your friend sounds like he's just one of those guys who constantly needs to be in relationship. I have a friend like that to. He carries his girlfriends around everywhere with him and no one can stand them but he thinks he's the shit because of it. Then when he's single, he always wants to talk to me about how shitty life is.

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I prefer to be single overall. Woman are certainly a handful and I'd rather not deal with trying to figure someone out who can't just straight up tell me what it is they want.

Exactly.

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My problem is that I think it may just have been the sex that I was in love with.

Exactly, looking back...I only really miss relationships when I'm horny. When I'm not, I couldn't give a fuck, I'm free to flirt all I want, go anywhere, and do anything without having do deal with a girl and her shenanigans. "Oh, you went to a bar last night? Why didn't you call and ask me? I might have gone." bullshit. Fuck yeah, monk.

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Your friend sounds like he's just one of those guys who constantly needs to be in relationship. I have a friend like that to. He carries his girlfriends around everywhere with him and no one can stand them but he thinks he's the shit because of it. Then when he's single, he always wants to talk to me about how shitty life is.

Yep, our friends sound similar. It's like when he's not sticking it to some chick, his life is miserable. This time is the worst though, since he's started drinking fairly often, which is just a bad idea.

Some guys, srsly.

Thanks for posting man.

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Okay, so, when you're in a relationship, are you usually happy? Or are you in it because you like sex and companionship?

I'd say yes, because I don't enter into relationships with people who annoy me. I'm not often in relationships, and the ones I am in tend to last a while.

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How often, if ever..do you fall in love?

Twice. I hate that shit. I'm a pretty logical dude, and unfortunately, I can't control my emotions when I start to love a chick, and that just sucks because logic and intellect are puny compared to emotion, and that's just annoying. Then when it all falls apart, as it always does because life is a big fucking fag, I get all upset and distraught and shit. And I'm a pretty intensely emotional guy, so, you know, I don't get over it like flipping a light switch or something. Fucking emotions suck.

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When you aren't in a relationship, do you feel the need to be in one? Do you miss the feeling of being with someone, or just the sex?

Nah. I don't need that shit. In fact, I'd rather be single than be in a relationship with some broad that annoys me, which is a vast majority of them.

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Does not being in a relationship ever effect your attitude towards life?

Meh, not really. Maybe once in a while I'm like, 'I'd be cool to go to a movie or to dinner with some chick I give a shit about' or something, but, like I said, I'd rather be in monk mode than just enter into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship.



/srs biz.

Being a monk is the best.

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Being a monk is the best.

Right....and you can wank away with your fellow frocked wankers. Is that a happy thought to go with ???

Thread subject and responses are pretty clear that you are not ready for a relationship. Which is OK. Everyone should know their limits. But not having a regular sexual relationship and the emotional initimacy that goes with it sure beats the 'monk' approach in my book. The 'monk' approach is positively CREEPY !!!

I get more out of the world sexually, socially, financially and in terms of pure happiness...with relationships. You guys that choose to go it alone have picked the most boring path ! I am wondering if the computer recluses among you have subsituted a high res flat screen for a human face ? Maybe log off and interact face to face with the same frequency.

Just a thought for the thoughtful among you, yes ?

I think if anything Honda, you've just explained what happened to you and I.

On the other hand, FeFe and I have been quite happy, I think. Fefe, honey, we are doing fine together aren't we? At least since that herpes scare?

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I get more out of the world sexually, socially, financially and in terms of pure happiness...with relationships. You guys that choose to go it alone have picked the most boring path !

I don't know who this guy is, but I like him and he seems smart. Stay away from Fefe!!!

I would agree entirely, on a serious note. My wife is my tag team partner. Having someone to share home and parenting duties with ultimately provides us both more time for leisure. Our joint income is very comfortable and it has allowed us to do cooler things and cooler ways with more frequency. Have a regular sex partner is great as well, particularly since my wife is hot and still attractive. But beyond helping to empty my cum chamber, in a good relationship, the other person becomes part of you, like a arm or a leg. I don't move with MrsDorkButt and that is ok.

There are trade offs. We don't agree on everything. She is a moody one at times. In a relationship you take their bad with their good and we've all got some bad.

But in a good relationship, the good outweighs it. If it doesn't, you ought not be in that relationship. I'm a relationship person, I guess. I'm better on my game with the added responsibility and having someone to work off of and combine efforts with.

I can't imagine it the other way. Seems....sad. To each their own though.

I've been in one relationship or another damn near my whole life. So I guess I'm the relationship type. I'm not the whipped type though cause I always wear the pants in the relationship and I don't put up with most of what you guys are complainin about. If I want to go out with my friends without her then that's what I do and I don't listen to any bullshit about it.

I definitely love the love of a good woman not just the sex. I like watchin a movie while she snuggles up and messes with my hair or traces her fingernails on my back. I like knowing I've got a hot girl to take with me places without having to find one when the need arises (office parties etc). I like being taken care of and having someone be genuinely concerned about me.

Yeah I've been in love. Twice. When it's good it's fuckin great when it's bad it's the hardest shit I've been through and that's sayin a lot cause I've been through some shit in life.

I'm not really the relationship type but I'm not against them either. It's just that, if I'm gonna settle down with one girl, I'm not going to sacrifice my happiness just to be "with" someone. I've done it before but I won't do it again. If I should meet a great chick and I truly enjoy her company, I would have no problem being in a mutual relationship. Otherwise, I'm happy being single. No I don't get laid as much as when I have a gf but I can sacrifice quantity for quality. Even a girl who's great in bed gets a little old after a while. You know, variety is the spice of life or whatever.

As for people who act different when they are with someone than when they're single....I think they have issues that they need to work out on their own before they drag someone else down with them.

I have been in love before and I still bear the scars of lost love but the feeling of being truly in love with someone is worth the risk IMO.

Interesting topic Honda. A lot of my friends think I'm a relationship-phobe because I'm dating a new girl every few months. I'm not scared of any relationship, I just don't want to push something that is just not gonna work out in the long run.

uhh. boys suck.

just kidding.

when i was younger and found out boys like me, and was naive, i ended up being with a lot of guys.... at 16 i had my first serious relationship for 2 years. it was great, i loved him, i dont regret any of it, even though it was the best and worst thing ever at the end. I was definitely happy in a relationship, its good knowing someone is there. and i feel kind of confused right now when im not in one....

Nope, I've outlived thousands of wimmin.

They'd piss me off and I'd go out and gather heaps of souls before i cooled down.

The truth is gurlz are stinky and have cooties, some one has to say it, so there!!!

Personally I dont fall in love till awhile into knowning the person such as my wife and i knew each other for over a decade as friends before I knew I was in love with her and that was still two years + into our relationship. I also am happier in a relationship than I ever am outside of one. sex is good when single but personally i think sex is better when you are in a relationship like mine and some others I know of from friends of hers or mine. because its like well oiled machine in the point of I know what she likes and wants as well as how to set her off with ease while she knows the same. but before her I will admit I would begin to nitpick the girl apart after the first three to six months till she was nothing but a leech in my mind.

this "guy" is a GIRL.. shessh ! but i do prefer girls, so your caveat is well taken.

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I don't know who this guy is, but I like him and he seems smart. Stay away from Fefe!!!

I would agree entirely, on a serious note. My wife is my tag team partner. Having someone to share home and parenting duties with ultimately provides us both more time for leisure. Our joint income is very comfortable and it has allowed us to do cooler things and cooler ways with more frequency. Have a regular sex partner is great as well, particularly since my wife is hot and still attractive. But beyond helping to empty my cum chamber, in a good relationship, the other person becomes part of you, like a arm or a leg. I don't move with MrsDorkButt and that is ok.

There are trade offs. We don't agree on everything. She is a moody one at times. In a relationship you take their bad with their good and we've all got some bad.

But in a good relationship, the good outweighs it. If it doesn't, you ought not be in that relationship. I'm a relationship person, I guess. I'm better on my game with the added responsibility and having someone to work off of and combine efforts with.

I can't imagine it the other way. Seems....sad. To each their own though.

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this "guy" is a GIRL.. shessh ! but i do prefer girls, so your caveat is well taken.

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Please pardon my gender confusion. Regardless, my comment was meant well. You are smart. Please, hand down to us more wisdom from atop your lesbian mountain.

sorry, wasn't trying to be condescending...

nothing about it is gender specific. things are/can be a bit different between the genders but the basics are human and universal. i had to grow up quite a bit for i finally "got it". or maybe i should say "got it right".

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Please pardon my gender confusion. Regardless, my comment was meant well. You are smart. Please, hand down to us more wisdom from atop your lesbian mountain.

I don't need a relationship and I certainly have never gone and looked for one. However, I've been in few and one was an awful marriage which I was young and naive to enter.

Then, not feeling like the "relationship guy" again, I found a pretty awesome women. It was srsly like I had learned from my starter wife, of what I wanted and didn't even know it. I didn't even feel the need to go and man whore it up. I think the reason was that she knew the exact same thing I did, as far as what we were looking for but not actively.

Btw Honda, your friend sounds like a lame ass, who has no idea who he actualy is and needs a piece of poon to define him. If he's a douche with a girl that makes him happy then he's a douche in anyway that makes him happy. Soo, basically he's a douche for being misserable and for being happy. If you have a girl that makes you happy and you act like that, then you have no idea what you want and no idea who you are and are too weak to know. So you try to make others feel like you think you should feel.

In short, I don't need them but I love the one I'm in and your friend is a weak douche'nossle..

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Right....and you can wank away with your fellow frocked wankers. Is that a happy thought to go with ???

Thread subject and responses are pretty clear that you are not ready for a relationship. Which is OK. Everyone should know their limits. But not having a regular sexual relationship and the emotional initimacy that goes with it sure beats the 'monk' approach in my book. The 'monk' approach is positively CREEPY !!!

I get more out of the world sexually, socially, financially and in terms of pure happiness...with relationships. You guys that choose to go it alone have picked the most boring path ! I am wondering if the computer recluses among you have subsituted a high res flat screen for a human face ? Maybe log off and interact face to face with the same frequency.

Just a thought for the thoughtful among you, yes ?

Well, I would have to say being a woman..you're biased so, not to say your opinion is worthless, but, it is worthless to me, when it comes to this subject. I don't know why you felt it overly necessary to critique my lifestyle choice, but I'm glad you did, it has given me this chance to spend twenty minutes wearing my internet tough guy hat.(it's made of tinfoil)

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Originally posted by 888SPO

Right....and you can wank away with your fellow frocked wankers. Is that a happy thought to go with ???

Thread subject and responses are pretty clear that you are not ready for a relationship. Which is OK. Everyone should know their limits. But not having a regular sexual relationship and the emotional initimacy that goes with it sure beats the 'monk' approach in my book. The 'monk' approach is positively CREEPY !!!

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Yes. I don't sit around all day jerking off like a freaky basement dweller. I have hobbies, and lead a pretty entertaining life. Plus, even if I were in a relationship..I would probably jerk off anyway. Are you saying you don't masturbate, or that there is something wrong with it? Also, again, yes...a life free of drama, bitching, heartache and money sucking is a happy thought. "It's better to have loved and lost"...my fucking balls it is.

Most women can't be alone, and for whatever reason (you, they) might find it weird that I actually prefer it, I don't know why women hate being alone so much..it's like they can't have a full, complete life without a man, maybe it's just because without a boyfriend they have to pay their own way and such. I guess that's why super ugly chicks always seem so bummed..since they have to be smart, and talented..or they end up in a trailer park married to a man that wears flannel and drives an old pickup truck while trying to remember the names of their eighteen children.

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I get more out of the world sexually, socially, financially and in terms of pure happiness...with relationships. You guys that choose to go it alone have picked the most boring path ! I am wondering if the computer recluses among you have subsituted a high res flat screen for a human face ? Maybe log off and interact face to face with the same frequency.

Well, first off..my high res flat screen is the fucking tits..I love it more than Bender, and Bender is a fantastic character. Also, I accomplish far more socially while single than I do while in a relationship, you're make assumptions based on nothing, which is a silly thing to do, especially if you don't to sound an idiot. I've actually had lots of girlfriends..not just the pretend internet kind, I just tend to have more fun while alone, and I tend to accomplish more in my own life, I can play three instruments, I've renovated the majority of my house and I don't have to spend all my free time talking to some girl about shopping and Americas Next Top Model. I'm free, and I love it. Just because you need someone in your life to be entertained, doesn't mean I'm some sort of weird fucking psycho because I don't. It's the same with the majority of people that abuse alcohol and drugs, they're just looking for something to fill the void, something to make their time pass quicker, and make it more entertaining. I love my life, it's fucking awesome....thanks for your post though, I'll print it out and use it as my special monk toilet paper, because that's about all your post is good for.

Thanks for posting.