You get a proposal...what do you do?

Ok, so imagine youre married...and have been for some time
you have no kids...and dont suspect/think theres anything wrong.

you have a conversation with your partner..and they decide to ask you something..

they mention that they would allow you to have a one night stand. With whomever
and not hold it against you, not ask with who, when it was done and ask if it was good
as long as you used condoms for protection..

But they were allowed to do the same.

These are my questions for you

What would you do?
do you have that arrangement already?
would you consider it before giving an answer?
or would you answer it straight off?
and why?


and no, this isnt about me.....im just bored with the shit in the lounge, thought we might need to post in something different

Mmmmhmmm...

Sounds like guilt.

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Originally posted by Kanzen

Mmmmhmmm...

Sounds like guilt.

Probably a trap.

partner feeling guilt for cheating and giving that option to try and 'level' it you mean?

guys....this isnt a "give me advice" thread
this isnt about me or someone i know..

its just a question...a few actually..

so can you please answer the questions posted? (in bold) :P

What would you do? - Would not do it.

do you have that arrangement already? - No

would you consider it before giving an answer? - No.

or would you answer it straight off? - Yes, and the answer would be no

and why? -Sounds like fun, but in the end feelings get hurt. Other peoples relationships may allow for this sort of thing but our marriage is built on love, our children, the pains we've suffered together and above all trust. A one night stand, in my mind, somehow tarnishes/cheapens all of it.

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Originally posted by Latino

guys....this isnt a "give me advice" thread
this isnt about me or someone i know..

its just a question...a few actually..

so can you please answer the questions posted? (in bold) :P

Fine!!

If a hypothetical woman gives this option to a hypothetical man, it's more than likely a hypothetical trap.

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Originally posted by 70elk

What would you do? - Would not do it.

do you have that arrangement already? - No

would you consider it before giving an answer? - No.

or would you answer it straight off? - Yes, and the answer would be no

and why? -Sounds like fun, but in the end feelings get hurt. Other peoples relationships may allow for this sort of thing but our marriage is built on love, our children, the pains we've suffered together and above all trust. A one night stand, in my mind, somehow tarnishes/cheapens all of it.

thanks for the ONLY REAL RESPONSE
pretty much what i thought too..


RD -

acuse her of using drugs, and then tell her ...ehh her sister!

meh....you guys suck at semi-serious discussions..
go back to your porn

thats like getting invited to be on Springer....no matter how you look at it, its not good...

ok here i go .
no i would not for one if she ask you this she is not happy or in love with you and if she is board with you it will not help the only one getting any is you if she does it she will not ever be happy with you again thin you will be there to pay the bill but not the dick and it wont be long she will stay with the other dick and you still pay the bills . so with that bing said stay with the same old pussy and pay the bills and if she ask you this ? ever just leave and don't give fowarding address it will be safer . is that a good answer. now im thirsty

These are my questions for you

What would you do? Say No, But I'd ask who the other Guy was.
do you have that arrangement already? Nope
would you consider it before giving an answer? Consider... Maybe but wouldn't do it
would you answer it straight off? Yes
and why? because I would suspect at that point, she's ready to move and I'd better do the same unless she can explain WHY She made the offer and how She got the idea. Some couples can do it, I couldn't. I'm old fashioned, If you're gonna cheat keep it to yourself.

What would you do? I would say no, and be very suspicious.
do you have that arrangement already? Im single..so nope.
would you consider it before giving an answer? Nope.
or would you answer it straight off? I would answer straight off.
and why? When i finally do get married (never) i hope i love the person enough to only want them..so i really doubt i would like the idea of her getting railed by some other dude, but like i said..im single.



(I love posting, i always forget i have my new avy..so its like an awesome surprise every time i read my own post)

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Originally posted by Latino

Ok, so imagine youre married...and have been for some time
you have no kids...and dont suspect/think theres anything wrong.

you have a conversation with your partner..and they decide to ask you something..

they mention that they would allow you to have a one night stand. With whomever
and not hold it against you, not ask with who, when it was done and ask if it was good
as long as you used condoms for protection..

But they were allowed to do the same.

These are my questions for you

What would you do? do you have that arrangement already?
would you consider it before giving an answer?
or would you answer it straight off?
and why?


and no, this isnt about me.....im just bored with the shit in the lounge, thought we might need to post in something different

With my current mate, this is not an issue, we already play with other girls, together. She discover a while back that she likes women almost as much as she likes men. Bonus for me!!!

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Originally posted by Latino

im just bored with the shit in the lounge, thought we might need to post in something different

Good call! I hope it wasn't my thread about cold sores that pushed you over the edge!

To be honest, I'm freakishly faithful in my relationships. I find it very difficult to imagine cheating unless things aren't really going well for me and Mrs. Prowl. My instant first response would be to question why she would be having these thoughts - what isn't she getting from our relationship that she thinks she will get from this. And then see if there's some way to make her happy without doing that.

But I'm an open minded guy, I think if every possible course of action had been tried and this was the remaining option, I think I'd try it as a kill-or-cure. I can actually think of someone who'd willingly oblige if I called her up today! lol!

I don't have that kinda arrangement with my current gf as we'veonly been together 2 months. I'd be seriously worried if I did!

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Originally posted by _Prowl_

My instant first response would be to question why she would be having these thoughts - what isn't she getting from our relationship that she thinks she will get from this. And then see if there's some way to make her happy without doing that.

best way around it i think..
find out what caused the need for that suggestion..

What would you do?

I would say no, and probably question why and where it was all coming from, wondering what underlying problems there were in our relationship...


do you have that arrangement already?

no


would you consider it before giving an answer? or would you answer it straight off?

no i wouldnt, i would answer straight away



and why?

why would you want to willingly put your relationship through that kind of drama? nothing like that is ever simple, someone always gets hurt, its never a simple thing. nothing is simple when theres love involed.

Firstly G'day Latino (its been a while)

What would you do? - I'd say no

do you have that arrangement already? - No

would you consider it before giving an answer? - No. but i would think about why she asked me this after.

or would you answer it straight off? - Yes, and the answer would be no

Why... Because if i were married i would be for my wife and only for her and wonder what i was doing wrong if she did ask me this..