Virgin needs some pointers :x

Hello everyone.

Welp the day seems near... But these are some serious questions. So spare me.

So, it seems that I will be visiting this girl sometime soon who goes to college not too far from me. During the summer we went out a few times and it's looking good (she comes back here for the summer.) Anyhoo, the attraction is there, and since im visiting her at her dorm the booze and bed will be there... It looks promising, and I'd like to get a few pointers so i don't look like a total idiot.

One big concern of mine is that I am pretty sure I'm (what is so delicately called) a "premature ejaculator." From uh.... tests i've done... it seems that this will be a big problem. Is... lets say... wackin off right before we have sex a good idea? And since this will be my first time, It'd really suck if it went off by minor rubbing.

That probably my biggest concern. Also feel free to throw some pointers and "noobie mistakes" in those comments! They will be greatly appriciated and hopefully applied.

Thank You
-lar

You know, the best way to get rid of "premature ejaculaton" is to grow up and have sex (or have sex and gorw up, doesn't matter). Once you're not so excited about geting some, you'll last longer. So don't worry, visit her and remember about taking pics.

haha. yea i know. but i need some help with this situation :[

Take more condoms - you'll come once, make out with her for some time, then go once again.

yay that's more like it

wacking off half an hour or 15 min before sex, can help you to release the pressure.
best thing is you wack off before the date and then in the bathroom during it.
also it helps if you are a bit drunk, not too much!
if you are blind drunk your penis refuses to get an erection.

also take the foreplay serious, girls like it.


when is the date?

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Originally posted by Duderino

wacking off half an hour or 15 min before sex, can help you to release the pressure.
best thing is you wack off before the date and then in the bathroom during it.
also it helps if you are a bit drunk, not too much!
if you are blind drunk your penis refuses to get an erection.

haha thanks for the tips. :\ i dont drink too much, so i better watch what i'm doing lol. i better be the one pouring the drinks so i can dilute mine.

well it's not gonna really be a date. it's gonna be me visiting her college and i guess drinking in her room? lol and it's like in 3 weeks.

Never go out with a loaded gun

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The easiest thing to do is get a condom with a spermacide.....
A helpful side effect (for the first timer) of the spermacide is that it has a mild numbing effect on the user. Try not to drink too much ,it is helpful to actually remeber your first time.

good luck and take pictures if she will let you

Z

hmm i never even heard of spermacide. are they available at drug stores? lol

if it is in 3 weeks i got the best tip for you!
practise!

choke the chicken while watching a porno, or what ever you do to get you off, but the stop right before orgasm. wait and do it again. after some time let it happen. practise this 5 times a week and you will go for the long distance.

It comes on some condoms just read the package before you buy them it will say if they have spermacide on them or not. Hey man good luck and dont do anything stupid like tell her you love her or something during sex.

duderino - ahh yes. i remember reading that somewhere. thanks :-D what better site to try that on than this one?

petri - thanks lol thanks for that pointer. hopefully that wont happen.


edit:
i'm off for the night guys. thanks for all the tips - they have been greatly appriciated. and hopefully you all will keep 'em coming. maybe even share a few embarassing first time experiences of your own haha..

goodnight
-lar

avoid trying to stick it in her ear.

the rear is fine, but the ear... god that was a bad mistake...

any major drugstore will have a large selection of all kinds to choose from. Take you time and don't be embarressed. They will simply say things like lubricated,unlubricated, and with spermicide as well as latex natural material and even in several different sizes .

Things the first timer should avoid;
1)no natuaral condoms, they do not prevent the transmission of AIDS
2)lubricated is a good idea especially if she is a firs timer
3)be realistic, don't go for the MAGNUM size condom unless you actually need it

Z

(don't forget the pix)

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Originally posted by Bangledesh

avoid trying to stick it in her ear.

the rear is fine, but the ear... god that was a bad mistake...

don't think i'll be making that mistake

and goodnight for real

dont use a condom, ram it in hard and bang away as FAST as you can...... you'll last FOREVER !!!!

.... j/k !! dude the only way to get over the premature ejac, is to just have more and more sex. there are no creams or sprays that will help. it happens to a lot of guys the first time or if it's been awhile. one thing that might help ya though.... if you cum fast, just keep on goin !!! if you lose your boner, you wont get it back for awhile, but if ya keep on goin, you'll stay strong !! the most important tip though, get her off first so she wont be too pissed at ya for not lastin long . lots of time on the clit dude !!!!

I always try to count in my head visualizing the numbers in different colors as i go. for example, this is normally how it goes...

123sexhot WETNO WAIT, uhhh4uhhh, 5

I think most important is that u just be yourself, no one expect masterly performance from u and if u only thinking about "not" to come ur cramped all the time and cant enjoy the whole thing.

May u'll make the same experience like me, when i got my firsttime, one time is not enough and usualy the girl will come after the second or third time. Just make sure that she's fealing fine. Foreplay is for a lot of girls the most important thing.

dont think to much about it, gl then