swinger experiences

No way in Hell is any other man touching my girl. I'm willing to bet if all stats are taken, swingers do not have the best marriage rate vs divorce rate.

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Originally posted by wildcatman

No way in Hell is any other man touching my girl. I'm willing to bet if all stats are taken, swingers do not have the best marriage rate vs divorce rate.

Bah, it's not any better or worse then normal. Wife and I did it for 6 months. She kept saying how much fun it is, then one day changed her mind. Come to find out, it was all lies about her even liking it.

I enjoyed it tho, I NEVER had the urge to seek it with out her being there either. So I dont think swinging is any worse then those who dont.

I have a question.

My gf and I are interested in investigating swinging and swinging partys etc etc

how did you hook up with swinging groups?

How did you meet/get invited to parties etc etc

thanks in advanced

When I was married, we were a swinging couple. Granted, I wasnt aware that we were, and I wasnt part of the swinging... so I cant really say how the experience went.

It's easier to just cheat on your gf/wife and lie to her that you're not. No need to encourage a woman’s natural tendencies to be whorish anyway with that swinger stuff.

I don't want to cheat on her, and it's something we both want to do.

You might change your mind when you look down at the fat chick you're pumping eating a pound of cupcakes while one guy hung like a horse is nailing your wife in the snapper like you never could, another guy is in her ass hung like a donkey, and she's suckiing off a guy who's dick is so big his hips are in the other room.

We've been in the "lifestyle" for several years now. There are so many stereotypes of it out there though. Its not simply an all out orgy, and its not a "legit" way to get "some" on the side. Think of it this way: how many of you have watched porn with your wife/partner? How many have gotten excited by getting a little "risque" in public?... enjoyed being watched or watching others going at it?
For us, intercourse is a private thing, reserved just for the two of us, but everything else is allowed.

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Originally posted by SpazHairlip

You might change your mind when you look down at the fat chick you're pumping eating a pound of cupcakes while one guy hung like a horse is nailing your wife in the snapper like you never could, another guy is in her ass hung like a donkey, and she's suckiing off a guy who's dick is so big his hips are in the other room.

*puts down the sandwhich she was eating*

The guy that doesn't want another man's dick inside his wife is insecure in his ability to satisfy his wife. He is afraid that she will like the new dick more than his and he will lose her.

And with his prevailing attitude he probably has good reason to be insecure and his marriage probably won't last anyway.

A guy's dick is not what keeps a woman around. She looks for a true expression of love and the freedom to find it. A man's generosity in giving his wife what she wants, even sexually, is what keeps them together. That's why swingers have such a low divorce rate.

The insecure guy could help his marriage by being more generous to his wife and taking her to a swing club and letting her have some fun.

The first time my wife and I went to a swing club, i got her almost drunk and then took her to the Jacuzzi room. Everybody was naked. She could see guys and girls groping each other under the surface. There was so much chlorine in the water it would have melted a swim suit. Soon some girl grabbed my dick, and some guy started feeling my wife's tits. She thought, if it was good enough for me, it was good enough for her and she let him have a good feel. The next thing I know they're kissing and he gets up on the edge of the jacuzzi and she starts sucking him. I was watching her and smiling at her. She reached over for me, and I sat along side him and she took turns sucking and stroking each of us and she loved it. First time she had ever had two cocks at the same time. Pretty soon I was behind her and she sucked him off and I came.

We really cemented our love and washed all jelousy away in that jacuzzi.

As for my earlier post: I meant to write "pool" not poop. An excellent typist I am not.

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Originally posted by Seryano

The guy that doesn't want another man's dick inside his wife is insecure in his ability to satisfy his wife. He is afraid that she will like the new dick more than his and he will lose her.

WTF?

Nah dude, Im pretty sure THAT dude just doesnt want another dude fuckin his wife. Just like Wife doesnt want another girl fuckin her husband. Swingers swing, couples who dont... dont.

To answer two questions.

Swingers are open to EVERYONE. If your wife doesn't want a man's advances, she says "NO". And that's it. Anybody who doesn't respect NO is usually asked to leave. I've never seen that happen.

To find other swingers, duh...Google swing clubs in your town or region.

Some are clubs ("off premises" where you just sit and have a drink and look around at the other couples.

If the two of you see yourselves being smiled at by a couple whom you both like, invite them over with a nod, or send them a drink.

Introduce yourselves and see if the spark ignites.

Then decide where you're going to go.

At "on premises" clubs, it usually starts the same way, or in the Jacuzzi.

You both might need a couple of drinks to erase the fear and loosen the inhibitions.

At on premises clubs, the action goes on and on and there is a lot to choose from. If you just meet a couple at an off premises club, it's just the four of you, unless they or you want to invite others to your session.

The last one I had, we met three other couples and we all left for our house and we all had each other twice.

my and the gf have and really enjoyed the freedom. gf is a little conservative and we only go to watch and dance. she does not have to be selfconcience about her dress or any other thing. we have great sex and have the fun of watching. we go often and recommend it for all as the club we go to is very upscale and the friends that we have met understand we are there to just have fun. NO MEANS NO

If that's all you do and all you want to do, then good on you, mate.

I never thought it was a spectator sport, but that's just me.

decadence and hedonism

My wife and I treasure and enjoy pleasuring each other too much to spoil it and cheapen our love by going public with others, for temporary fleshly gratification. We make each day an adventure for us. We ned no one else to fulfill our fantasies and desires.

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thanks for the advie, any more anybody can give me (and/or opinions and stories please do)

Been married for almost 10 years now. Seems just recently we have been discussing our deeper fantasys with eachother. Mostly about 3-somes, swinging hasnt come up yet. Its both a fear and a fantasy we have and we're not sure if we are ready to share yet. Just recently we have also began to explore our own minds and bodys alot more in and out of the sack. I have a feeling its a time factor and being comfortable with who you are and not who you want to be and that comes with maturity. I dont think we are mature enough yet for something like this but who knows in the future.
The idea that these are nothing but fuck fests with 20 somethings and perfect bodies is simply a fantasy and a good porn shoot for the internet.
The ones crying my dick and her pussy Im betting are pretty young.
To each their own as they see fit.

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Originally posted by robodick

My wife and I treasure and enjoy pleasuring each other too much to spoil it and cheapen our love by going public with others, for temporary fleshly gratification.

Love and sex are not mutually exclusive. Having sex with others does not "cheapen" love-making with your partner unless you WANT it to.

Lying, deceiving and otherwise catting around on the other hand, do.

There are some that would say looking at... I dunno... let's say naked pictures of girls... cheapens your relationship too. But beauty and pleasure are both completely different emotions than love.