i know this is not really the place for this kind of discussion, but i need some relationship... *advice*, i guess. asking strangers that aren't my stupid drunk ass friends is one tactic i've been long considering to get an objective opinion on this shit. and believe me, it is shit.
so here goes:
my gf and i have been dating for a number of years now (5+ some months). shes an awesome girl: good gf, makes me food a lot, buys me shit, is caring, funny, etc. etc., REALLY hot (super plus) and seems to love me to death for whatever reasons she finds valid. we have a pretty good relationship with few fights, we see each other about 2-3 times a week for extended time periods, and the sex is awesome.
now the problem. i'm fairly young (21), shes of the same age, and i just don't know where this is going. we've been dating (albeit on and off at one point) since young kids start to actually 'date', and i just don't know. I party alot with different groups of people so i'm exposed to lots of women. i find it really hard to focus on our relationship with not knowing what else is out there. i've never cheated on her nor will i ever, which is part of the conundrum. i'm definitely a quality over quantity type of guy and i won't just stick it anywhere. however, like i said, i don't know fully what is out there.
her and her friends can have a real 'small town' mentality of clique-type behaviour at times which makes it impossible for me and my friends that chill with them to have outside acquaintances. this drives me fucking insane sometimes because i like to experience new and interesting things and people, and they simply don't.
i don't know what else to say really. i'm young and inexperienced with all this love and relationship shit. but when she says "i love you" and i say it back, it's not always the complete truth; sometimes i'm just not sure.
sometimes i just feel like i need to get out there and leave all this shit behind, but at the same time i care very much about my gf and despite this rant, i do love her and enjoy our time together. i mean, i don't want to dump her really (she is going through some VERY terrible family problems right now and I'm pretty much all she has) but where can it go from here?
smartass comments and dickhead responses need not reply.
thanks for the help.
so here goes:
my gf and i have been dating for a number of years now (5+ some months). shes an awesome girl: good gf, makes me food a lot, buys me shit, is caring, funny, etc. etc., REALLY hot (super plus) and seems to love me to death for whatever reasons she finds valid. we have a pretty good relationship with few fights, we see each other about 2-3 times a week for extended time periods, and the sex is awesome.
now the problem. i'm fairly young (21), shes of the same age, and i just don't know where this is going. we've been dating (albeit on and off at one point) since young kids start to actually 'date', and i just don't know. I party alot with different groups of people so i'm exposed to lots of women. i find it really hard to focus on our relationship with not knowing what else is out there. i've never cheated on her nor will i ever, which is part of the conundrum. i'm definitely a quality over quantity type of guy and i won't just stick it anywhere. however, like i said, i don't know fully what is out there.
her and her friends can have a real 'small town' mentality of clique-type behaviour at times which makes it impossible for me and my friends that chill with them to have outside acquaintances. this drives me fucking insane sometimes because i like to experience new and interesting things and people, and they simply don't.
i don't know what else to say really. i'm young and inexperienced with all this love and relationship shit. but when she says "i love you" and i say it back, it's not always the complete truth; sometimes i'm just not sure.
sometimes i just feel like i need to get out there and leave all this shit behind, but at the same time i care very much about my gf and despite this rant, i do love her and enjoy our time together. i mean, i don't want to dump her really (she is going through some VERY terrible family problems right now and I'm pretty much all she has) but where can it go from here?
smartass comments and dickhead responses need not reply.
thanks for the help.