Possible F*ck Friend Advice

Ok, I've been around a couple years but rarely post but I have something that I could use some input on. It would be great to get some honest opinions from some of the female members especially because I don't know how the hell you women think.

A little background of recent events:
I'm 23 years old and only have a couple notches in my belt. I was in a 26 month relationship with a girl who I thought I was going to marry. This just ended about 3 months ago. I have since been celibate. I've tried dating a couple times this past month but nothing I feel more than a simple friendship if that. I was at a Halloween party on a date and there was this girl there with her boyfriend. This girl, Tara, was really cute. I just got a call from my best friend who's fiance works with that girl and they let me know that she recently broke up with her boyfriend and they already put the good word in for me.

The only problem, or it may not even be a problem, is that she's not looking for a serious relationship right now. She straight-up admitted that she only wants a "good enough for now" guy or a fuck friend. I'm not sure about doing this knowing from the very beginning that its purely sexual or that I'm just there temporarily. I've never done that before so I don't know the rules. Where's the boundary? Is this something that should be brought up at the beginning or would that weird her out? Am I just suppose to know? What if we get things kickin and after some time I start to have feelings for her? I guess the only good thing is that I'm not really looking for a serious relationship at this point in time either so this might be right up my alley.

I know right now that if I go for this and become her "fuck friend" I want to be the only one. Is that fair? I don't want to share with other guys. That just seems unfair and probably not the smartest, safest, or cleanest thing to get involved in.

I'm suppose to go hang out at my friend's apartment this Saturday as I usually do only this Saturday she is coming over too. We usually partake in the consumption of alcoholic beverages so I don't know what to expect.

What ya think?

burn it up every chance you get.It can start out just sex but it can go relationship route.I got semi caught in this scenario.3 year relationship ended,talked to a close friend and told her hook me up with with one of her friends with no strings attached.
That was 3 1/2 years ago and I'm still with that same girl that started as a booty call.

Should have just banged the friend.Shitty you find out they like you after you get in a new relationship.

I would just go with it, theres no way to know how it will work out. Maybe it'll be good, maybe it'll suck. If it sucks, or just doesnt feel right for some reason, you can always walk away from it.

Her is what I would do... be a player and show a little interest, but don't pressure her into anything. it should take a bout a week or 2 before she needs some male attention and you need to make sure you are the one that is doing that... get her drunk and really bang the shit outta her and make it as pleasurable as possible for her. If you fuck up and nut in 2 minutes, you're over, but if you bang her right shes all yours!

My advice:

Don't put it in her ear. Or on her ear. Or behind her ear.

Just avoid putting it near the ear in general.

That's just a safe bet on how to not rupture her eardrum. Which, given the chance, I'd have liked to have had someone tell me before that one fateful night.

...poor girl never saw it coming.





...and now she sure as hell won't hear it coming either.


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Okay, fine.

My real, although slightly less serious advice is:

Go for the f-buddy thing. And eventually, if you do get feelings for her, you could talk to her about it then.

Be all like, "I don't think we should continue to do this because I'm beginning to like you."

That way, if it ends, she knows and can mull it over and since she's a girl and it makes for a much better movie ending, she will probably agree with you that you shouldn't continue being f-buddies, except in a good way. It worked, sort of in a not really kinda way, on House. And that's a good show.

And she will call you in like 3 hours even though it's supposed to be 3 days, because that's the rule someone made up, and you guys will get married and start popping kids out.

Or if she is in a similar boat with the liking her thing, except for she likes you, you totally scored "feelings" points and can begin to work on putting it lovingly anywhere but her ear. Instead of casually poking her soft and/or juicy bits after pizza and a Friends rerun.

It may not be a good idea for you to listen to my advice, but as an "older" person and one who was diagnosed with a potentially fatal disease, I say, "GO FOR THE GUSTO"!! Life is too short to worry about the petty emotional CRAP that exists in our day to day encounters. Just make sure she really is just after a "f*ck buddy". Verify that with the friends who are hooking you up and enjoy! If for some reason, you find yourself getting emotionally involved, back off. We don't need any more stalkers in this world. Just the opinion of an old, jaded geezer.

The reason for having someone as a fuck friend is to be able to be with others. I have had a couple and it worked ok for me. Both later married younger girls and that was ok by me. Gotta make sure you stay only a friend, fuck or otherwise.

If she's hot, bang her, you puss.

Hey man... I think me and you are in the same position. I just got out of a 3 year relationship 3 months ago. We was engaged and was planning on getting married... but it dont always work the way you want it to.

Ok anyways, i kinda dated this other girl for like 2 weeks and told her i wasnt really ready for another relationship and i wanted to see as many girls as i could before i settle down again that way i'm sure. Well weeks after i told her that we started talking about being horny and not having anyone to sleep with on IM on computer... next thing i know we are talking about friends with benefits.

Well we're doing that now, and it was a little akward at first but its sex... and really its better sex than you find in a relationship... the girl acts like more of a slut and you dont really have to baby and pamper them like you do a girl friend. They want the same thing you do, SEX!!!

Now in our situation we kinda set some rules, only me and her... no other partners, thats just being safe. And if either of us starts seeing someone else it stops, not using each otehr for cheating purposes.

So its working for me.. i suggest try it, if its not what your looking for, then no one said you have to keep doing it.

Good luck with it.

I'm in the exact same situation as Kevinjh, and for now, it's workin' perfectly!

Seriously, just give it a shot. If you start havin' feelings for her, just tell her. Who knows, maybe she feels the same way at that point.

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I know right now that if I go for this and become her "fuck friend" I want to be the only one. Is that fair? I don't want to share with other guys. That just seems unfair and probably not the smartest, safest, or cleanest thing to get involved in.
What ya think?

IMHO...you answered your own question right here. You are setting yourself up for a bad situation. Why do something that you don't feel like is right for you?

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If she's hot, bang her, you puss.

and do take pics and be sure to post them here

Sorry I can't help because I am a Lemon.

In the past i have had a few Friends with benefits, as long as you can keep it at that i highly recommend the arrangement. They are always fun and when there is no emotional toes to step on you can have a lot of fun, might even pick up a few new skills. If you are one of these peopel that can't keep emotion and sex separated, then you should bypass on the whole deal because it is gonna blow up ugly on you.

Alas, not the female perspective you wanted, but a couple of other opinions never hurt.

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and do take pics and be sure to post them here

Ya know, this girl would probably be the one to let me do that.

Thanks guys. I think I'm going over there this Saturday and just go with it and see what happens. If anything I'll break this dry spell.

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Ya know, this girl would probably be the one to let me do that.

Thanks guys. I think I'm going over there this Saturday and just go with it and see what happens. If anything I'll break this dry spell.

thats the way to go dude !! don't forget ur cam !!

fuckety fuck fuck fuckerson... I've never heard a man ask a question about the rules of fucking a girl... fucking fuck fuck

life's too short- go for it- you may never get the chance again!