BONUS! I CAN ACCIDENTLY STUMBLE ONTO MY WIFE'S GOINGS-ON WHILE SHES ON THE COMPUTER!! BONUS!!!!!!!
i mean............................ oops.
I still feel I'm right and you're not :P
And that he should be honest about it.
i think you have bigger problems my friend. i mean for one she is looking at woman not dudes. you are already losing out out .next she is looking at porn that is a good reason to think that you may not be taking care of business.so you might rethink your prosses sir.
you are a luck man, that being said, bring it up now and start enjoying nasty hot 3somes with your wife and other women. this is also a shining example as to why i use window washer everyday to erase my online "activities"
wow tequila makes a good point. what if you introduce a woman into the game and she leaves you for the woman. I would be careful if your relationship is shaky. then again this could be a new common ground.
main reason is i totally forgot. dude whatever you do use a camera!!!!! we need better input to give good feedback ;p
Talk to her or invite her to a private play party, you and her!
Here's my advice:
You could say someone sent you a vid through email ( no doubt an S&M lesbo vid), and for her to check it out, which justifies your possession of this type of porn, and maybe sparks a reaction from her.
You could also say a friend loaned you a vid and he said you HAD to check it out, oh and it just so happens to be the S&M porn, why not watch it with her, then ask a few innocent questions while the whips are flying. You could say you've always wanted to do that/ feel that and see how it goes. Again you didn't buy the vid or choose the genre, which gives you an out regarding the material.
Don't scare her off with direct confrontation, and for christ's sake do mention the keylogger, there is no need. I wouldn't push the issue, make it a long term project to get some freaky stuff going for you two.
Whoever said some fantasies are just that has a good point. Also who's to say she doesn't want to act out certain similar fantasies with you? Lesbian or not, maybe the leather and swings are for everyone. Hey at least she's not looking up huge cocks and muscly guys or whatever.
Best of luck with it.
Just for the record to clear a few things up. Our relationship is stable as it could possibly be. We've been together 9 years and we're as happy now as we ever have been. Our sex life is incredible and still after 9 years we average 5 times a week or more and she does thoroughly enjoy herself. Also in response to wargasm, my wife does have a job, her own life and more friends then she knows what to do with and they do go out often without me. Also, your point about her looking at porn means I'm not taking care of business doesn't really apply here. I come to WBW daily and look at porn but yet I'm VERY satisfied with my wife in bed. She just has a larger then normal sexual appetite and I guess porn has to fill in the spaces when I'm at work or asleep, lol. Or quite possibly
@CK: I appreciate the advice and I do agree that in 99% of situations honesty is always best but this is the 1% time that I'd have to disagree. Knowing my wife the way I do she would more then likely immediately get embarrassed and possibly get a lil pissed off out of the embarrassment. I am gonna try and find a way to stop monitoring her online activities though because I don't want to become the guy that wargasm speaks of, that was never my intention.
You should hire a couple of crazy hooker-stripper type chicks, bring them over to the house when your wife is out, tie them to the ceiling and shit, and jam all kinds of dildos and stuff in every hole you can find. Proceed to do this at a time when you know your wife will be coming home, so when she opens the door you can be all like, "Oh, Hi." and act all surprised and shit, and then be like, "you can join in if you want, you know."
If she's cool with it, she's probably legit into this kinky shit. If not, you'll know she was just fucking with ya and your keylogger. Either way, it'll feel good to get to the bottom of this situation.
get another freak from craigslist
lol.
@Lindros: There's so much room left for that plan to backfire, cause my divorce, cost me a small fortune and put me on the street living out of a cardboard box. Other then all that though it's an amazing suggestion.
1. Ask her if she likes kinky girl on girl stuff.
2. Ask her if she has ever gone online to view kinly girl girl stuff.
Her answers will tell you a whole lot about her.
Then you can decide your ensuing courses of mutual action: to either foster the behavior - or - alter her behavior.
i really love some of the shit thats being said here.
if a guy looks at porn its just because he likes porn
if a girl looks at porn it must be because shes either a REALLY horny girl with A HUGE sexual appetite, or her boyfriend/husand just isnt satisfying us the way we need to be satisfied and the relationship must be in trouble etc etc etc
how about women like looking at porn too? lets all open our minds to a new idea here. :P
