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Originally posted by mizznaughty
I've tried it twice with a former partner, and both times were very uncomfortable and painful, during and after. My new partner wants to try it, and I'm very hesitant.
It seems most people who try anal get put off because of pain, and never try again. A lot of people are missing out on something pleasurable simply because they dont prepare properly - in reality there's no need for anyone to feel discomfort or pain.
The human body is very flexible, and that goes for your ass too. If you've not taken anal before you're not used to having something large inside you obviously, so you need to build up to it SLOWLY. From experience the best thing is to get a set of dilators. These are designed to let you start with something small and work up in size over a period of a few weeks, to the size of your partners cock.
Use them daily with LOTS of lube, and every time start with the smallest and work up to the biggest that's comfortable. Leave them in for a while so you get used to them. Slide them in yourself - dont let a partner do it. If it feels too tight to get inside fully, hold it as far in as is comfortable for a few minutes then slide it in and out gently - it will start to go in more deeply until eventually it goes all the way in. Only go to the next size up when the current size is easy to get in and out, and feels comfortable inside.
As the days go by you'll find you can comfortably take bigger and bigger sizes. What once looked huge and scary will now seem inviting and pleasurable. It's just a matter of learning to relaxe and go sloooow. Everyone can do it, and enjoy it too - it just takes time. I got the kit shown above for one gf who was in the same situation as you. She was a bit tense at first and could only manage the smallest size (not much larger than a finger) After a month she was really into it, and was regulary using the largest, which is 2 inches across (large!) She never had any trouble taking my cock then - she just loved anal after that
If you / your gf want to enjoy anal, do what I say above and it will feel great every time. You can buy them eBay btw.
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