Do your girls like anal sex?

So I just wanted to know if your girls like it or not. Mine unfortunately doesn't and she says that it's very uncomfortable to her. Although we have used lubricants she claims that it is sometimes even painful. And now we had a great fight because of this Sounds strange? Maybe so...That's why I would like to know if anyone of you guys is having (or has had) this kind of situation and what did you do to get over it. All recomendations are welcome
Thnx

Sorry for double posts

It really depends on where your mate is coming from.

If it's something she just did for you, she may not want to do it again. It depends on how you did it the first time.
If it was loving, natural, and you shared something intimate, thjen she might be more condusive to doing it again. If you slammed her like she was in prison, she might not want to.

It's very personal. You are asking her to do something that is supposedly not natural. Just like oral sex. If you have to ask, you ain't getting it.

If she doesn't want to do it, find out why. And really discuss it, as two partners should. And if she really doesn't enjoy it, respect her opinion. If she has had bad experiences. see if you can correct those experiences.

And finally, reverse the roles. Would you want a finger slid up your ass, to tease your prostrate? If so, what fuidelines would you set. If not, then understand where she is coming from.

mickster is on fire this morning!

my ex said she liked it, but then later told me it hurt to much...so i dont know double-p

my girl is open for almost everything, so we tried that once. but she said it hurts too much, so never did that again.
maybe i´m just too big

i guess it´s like coming in a girls face, most of them don´t really like it.

Yup, seems so, my girl also said that she liked it at first and even liked it more than the usual stuff (but now I'm sure she just did it to please me). I think it's best not to pressure her and deal with it only when she wants it.

Most of the girls don't like it. In the beginning, of course. But later (if they can "survive" until later), they can enjoy it pretty much.

If it's done carefully and gentlely, it can be quite pleasurable. It takes getting used to, of course, but once you relax and accept it, it's a whole different feeling.

Kathryn, welcome to WBW

Being careful and gentle is the most important thing about anal sex.. And a lot of lubrication

Yes, lubrication is very important, but I thought that was understood.

This is a bit of a minefield really. I've had 2 girls that have taken it in the ass. The first "let" me do it a couple of times just to please me but hated it, the second was a virgin when I met her and once she'd got that out of the way was pretty keen to do everything! My current won't let me anywhere near it.

It's really important to let her take control though. Give her a vibrator so she's getting something out of it and let her control how far you go in, how fast etc. It really is a huge deal for a girl, as it would be for you if she came home with a strap-on!!

Good luck.

I've tried it twice with a former partner, and both times were very uncomfortable and painful, during and after. My new partner wants to try it, and I'm very hesitant.

Hi mizznaughty, welcome to the party.

No pun intended but the ball's pretty firmly in your court on this one. Take my advice though, my ex used a vibrator on her clit when I was doing it and said it kind of took away from the uncomfortable-ness (if that's a word!) She also preferred lying on her side rather than on her hands and knees.

hmmm... I know that I wouldnt want anything as big as my dick in my own ass, so even if she wanted to, I think it would hurt her. I'd be reluctant to try. I don't think its "gay" or anything, though. If it is your thing, thats cool. Maybe since I don't know what I'm missing, I'm ok without it. My anal ignorance is bliss.

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Originally posted by mizznaughty

I've tried it twice with a former partner, and both times were very uncomfortable and painful, during and after. My new partner wants to try it, and I'm very hesitant.

Hi

Here's some advice from personal experience.

No disrespect at all to you or your partner, but if it hurt then you ain't doing it right! Most guys are so keen to get in there they just go for it too fast - the result is loads of women who are needlessly put off something that's actually pretty pleasurable! It takes time! The usual problem is girls are worried it will hurt / embarrased / feel awkward etc, so they tense up. As a result it does hurt, they get even more tense and it hurts more!! etc etc.

What you need to do is take a couple of weeks and start with something really thin like a finger. Get used to the sensation of that first. Once you are relaxed and no longer feel tense, gradually work up in scale bit by bit. ALWAYS use plenty of lube - and I mean lots. Take it really slowly too - like a couple of minutes maybe to actually push things inside (it takes this long for the muscles to relaxe!) If you ever start to worry or hurt go back to a smaller size for a few days. Vibrators are good, but whatever make sure it's smooth and rounded!

After a while you become used to it, you relaxe totally, it starts to feel really good, and - surprise - you'll start to WANT to try bigger things because it turns you on! Relaxation makes ALL the difference. Say no to your partners dick until you feel fully prepared.

Anyway, that's my advice - try it and I think you might both be in for some fun. Your body is actually pretty flexible so it will likely comfortably take stuff wider than your partners dick! One last thing, don't go for anything too long!!! Eight inches absolute max.

Hope that helps!

Capt is right.

1) Do it extremely slow, and small. (tip of the finger, one finger, two, three...)
2) Use a ton of lube.
3) Be patient and don't try and ram all of it in.

i think mickster has said it all

Craps!!!

I've done all 3 of those things, and it still hurt.