cant get her to orgasim!!

ok, i know EXACTLY what your talking about, i was with a girl like that once... and trust me, there is a solution, but it wont be easy...

first of all: patience! its going to take a while and it seems your balls are burstin'... the problem here is like many people have said, that she has issues, yes, she does... she feels uncomfortable with sex and is insecure and stressed while doing it... thats why she cant get to orgasm, other thoughts keep popping up in her head...

my advice: take it slow, start all over again, as if you've never touched her... and everyday, make her feel comfortable and go a little further... watch for signals of stress, really watch, not just look over, no, watch her... she may not say so but she could get tense at a specific point, that is your ground zero and thats where you have to make start feeling comfortable, AT HER PACE...

otherwise dump her, because im telling you: its going to take a damn while for it to be ok...

ps. that picture is nasty... whats all that brown stuff after the anus?!

haha i just told her about it and shes breifly read some of it, she read that last comment, and i looked at the expression on her face, and she had this look of awww, someone really cares, thats so nice and sweet blah blah and then she got to the end and she was like WTF, i dont appreciate that shit, what an asshole!

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haha i just told her about it and shes breifly read some of it, she read that last comment, and i looked at the expression on her face, and she had this look of awww, someone really cares, thats so nice and sweet blah blah and then she got to the end and she was like WTF, i dont appreciate that shit, what an asshole!

sorry, i didnt mean for it to sound offensive or cruel... hey, i didnt dump her im still with her and it was fucking worth it... i was just being objective, because if patience is not your thing, then you are both going to go through problems and unnecessary suffering, i was just trying to give a helpul answer, save you either trouble or frustration... but by all means, if you can be patient... then go for it, itll be so much sweeter because you will have earned it... and trust me, you will end up loving her forever

(awwwwwwwwwwww)

she's gotta masturbate by herself more, when she learns how to give herself one, then you'll be able to give her one

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haha i just told her about it and shes breifly read some of it, she read that last comment, and i looked at the expression on her face, and she had this look of awww, someone really cares, thats so nice and sweet blah blah and then she got to the end and she was like WTF, i dont appreciate that shit, what an asshole!

Shoot.. I can't believe you showed her this!!! Now she's even more freaked out!!! Shoot.... this is a bunch of guys talking crap!! It's like sticking a blow job picture in the middle of the Victoria's Secret catalog!!! Please don't tell me you talk the same around her as you do your friends!!! This is a friggin porn (and cars!!) web site!! OK..... now you've REALLY got to be patient!!!

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shes 18 but she was a virgin until she met me, haha thats my probelm i have been takin to her but shes newer to all this than i am, and im kinda shy i dont relaly like goin up to my dad and sayin hey dad how do i fuck a girl? and i dont wanna ask my friends cause i dont wanna look like a loser, its embarassing to ask this stuff, and its alot easier to ask over the internet, plus i seem to be getting alot more response than from what i though, i have talked to her about this alot, it just doesnt seem to help much. of course i dont really know whats normal either... im just trying to find advice from professionals, if you guys know what i mean i donno i just kinda caim in here hoping to get advice because i havent encountered any girls like american pie, oh here this is the best way to fuck a girl do it like this and this, and my girl is so new to this she doesnt know what she likes and what she doesnt i guess shes just confused....

dude dude before you repeat being jeff...I will cut the crap give low down.lick and suck on clit while putting fingers in the honey pot at same time.....if that dont make her hit the O spot...then somthing really wrong with her and she has issue's...dare say trade her for in for better model.....it would piss me off if happend to me...

^^^^ speed's got a point. Try different varying up what you're doing to her clit too. Soft flicks, full pressure of the tongue. Lick her full labia. Also it might be that you are concentrating on her goodies and you need to be paying attention to the rest of her too. Caress her all over. Tell her what you find beautiful about her or what turns you on about her. Where are Lilrika and the other ladies? they could be giving way better advice than all us shrubs put together.

My girlfriend has the same issues as yours. All that you explained seems like I was there the entire time with your girl.This is a real issue because sex is 80-90% psychological and some women have issues which don't allow them to relax and to get in the mood. Sometimes they try too hard to orgasm and they can't. I suggest that you speak to your girl to try to get to the root of her issues and also try to give her some good wine. Set the mood with soft candle light, some good (screwing) music, and give her an erotic full body massage to get her to relax. Tease her and give her alot of foreplay. Try to arouse her in a passionate manner, speaking softly to her, and lastly try to give her all that she wants to please her. I guarantee you that if this doesn't work she is either frigid, crazy, or a waste of time. So then dump her like I did with my girlfriend. I couldn't deal anymore. Good luck buddy.

She may have issues with sex maybe being molested or something be sensitive to her and talk about whats going on dont be too forcefull.Women dont like that be gentle talk about it and see what happens

slap her on the ass and call her some dirty names...
Maybe you need to work on your skills also, practice makes perfect,
pull on her hair (down, not up)
Remember, the whole body is on organ, try using other parts of her body to help her O.
Also, Maybe all she needs is a bigger dick, use a cock ring or a french tickler,
Maybe she likes other girls. Ask her if she'd want to throw another hottie in the mix

Be carefull with the last one...

Women, can't live with em can't live without em, thank god for wbw

ok she might be haveing a small orgasim,she's inexperienced and dont know how to hold her small orgasims to make the big one,you said that she tells you just leave her alone dont touch her she feels all weird...and that she gets really sensitive. thats is what happens with a femaile orgasim. do this next time you go down ok...sorry if i misspell any words...im not a good speller 8^)
take and spred her lips apart then at the clilt open you mouth wide and plant it makeing a seal ...now blow hard and her clilt will come to the top then start licking while your blowing sucking gently thire also gets things going but reber her mones the deeper the mone is the best place to touch ..but dont do the same thing over and over it gets boring i can get most any girls to come in under 5 min.. hack my wife she comes 3 or 4 times in 10 min. of licking try it..

^^^^^^^^
dude where is that pic in your avatar from...ive seen it before in a video or somethin in school i think?

Good god, reading some of the replies makes me wonder what goes on out there these days !!!

Listen...heres the real dope!

Many women have extremely sensitive clitoris regions. Just by the way you describe it, I can tell that you are doing it all wrong.

First....remember it is all in the mind....you are going to have to set the mood, and take your time...it is all about atmosphere, setting the mood, and relaxation. Take it REAL SLOW! Be very gentle at first, use your finger and GENTLY caress the area AROUND the clitoris in circular motions...carefully brushing the area but not direct contact.....and take your time! after a while when she gets real wet, the clitoris will enlargen...but be careful...keepit slow...it is still real sensitive....(and as you described overdoing it RUINS IT...it becomes painful when overstimulated) then do a little oral...again LIGHTLY GENTLY ... think SLOW CIRCLES, tiny back and forth licks!!! while your doing that....reach up and gently gently rub her nipples as you continue to lick away slowly.

Do this, take time, and stay away from any penetration, or "aggressive" petting until you get her used to orgasm more and more over time. Remember most of it is in the mind...you need to build up her confidence so that she psycologically knows she can do it.

Also, with someone this sensitive, don't try vibrators either, unless it is a very gentle one and you stay away from the sensitive areas. The vest device you have is in your mouth.

All of this goes totally against the male drive...so you need to work on it, but I guarantee you when she reaches that point...and she will...it will be some of the best ever for her and you...as you lead up to the climax over this extended period.

Consider this good fortune in the sense that you will learn a technique by NEED, that will make you a SUPER LOVER to every other woman you meet in the future!

^^ dont know was goggling pics and came across it...i thought it was funny

and what about FETISH stuff? or S&M , bondage or stuff like that maybe she´s thats kinda of a girl, maybe she need to be beaten first to have an orgasm or some, you know what im talking about

^^^^^^
WTF!!!!

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WTF!!!!

yeh will this from guy has a marlin mason lookalike avatar....wtf factor has gone to 10 out 10...but if wips and chains are what he's in to...then just leave it at that....please dont post pic to prove it pSiCho

Yeah putting extra pressure on her isn't going to help things. It sounds like you nag her about not having an orgasm and you're saying you'll dump her if she doesn't get off. Gee add tension much. I had an ex who was a little insecure and uncomfortable about getting off but with patience, understanding and a lot of tongue action she was eventually having orgasms like mad. Oh and I never made a big deal about it or bugged her about it I just comforted her about it and let her know I wasn't upset with her for her not getting off.

Be glad you're getting your nut off and try to help her with hers. Don't be a douche about it.

Ok so I sound gay and pissy. I'm off to watch some porn and listen to Ozzy.