cant get her to orgasim!!

i know its lame, im going on a limb here.. me and my girl are having real problems, we're pretty new to all this stuff.. but we have been fooling around regularly ie at least 2-3 times a week AT LEAST, for about 3 months. However i can never seem to get her to orgasim, i dont know if its her or me, or what the hell is going on, i finger her and theres almost no response, and then i play with her clit and she gets wet and all that and starts to get into it, she even twiches and stuff. Normally what happens is she starts to get into it and pulls into alittle ball, normally making me lose my place (youd be amazed how fast she can come outa a mood too!), but then she acts like shes about to orgasim and just stops, and tells me to just leave her alone dont touch her she feels all weird... she explained it like getting right to it, and then not making it, so she gets really sensitive. I also catch her alot of times starting to arch her back and all that shit, but then she'll just grab my hand and tell me to stop, and pull her little dont touch me. is it me or her, and how do i fix this???

I think your girl has some issues. The two of you should talk these issues over and get it out into the open, otherwise this will never get any better. It almost seems like she associates shame with cumming.

Oh yeah, Welcome to WBW, we got all the pictures you need to take care of yourself if you and the lady don't work out.

There are girls out there that cant get a orgasm.
Sorry to say.
But why dont you go to a "real" sex shop and ask for some help.
Buy some things to help her out.

Some girls are also afraid of getting the orgasm, some of them feel like they are going to pee and dont know how to behave when getting it.

Maybe you need to get her to relax some more and be comfortoble about the whole situation.

Not saying youre bad or anything.

But thats my 5 Cent...

ok some more stuff to add, over the past week shes been pulling this, dont finger me, im selfish i want you to eat me out... which i object too because she hasnt shaved in a week..... anyway, ive eaten her out before and she doesnt even get to the point where she arches her back, she just seems really really into it, and she goes and goes forever, do all her twiching and all that stuff, and after like an hour and a half my damn tongue gets tired! how do i make this work?! we also have sex which we've both only done a couple times, so i havent had many super high expectations because we're both new to it and have never had sex with anyone else except each other, we've done it maybe 7 times, again she doesnt orgasim, but she gets real into it, looks like shes about to passout from the feeling, and gets to the point where she gets to tired... again i donno if its me or her, if it hurts her to much to keep goign or something? and is it normal that i love bjs sooo much more than having sex? caues i havent been able to blow fucking her, but shes so good at head if she puts her mind to it she can blow me in like 10-15 minutes, versus typical 30minutes to two hours haha. another question is this all happening because we play around so much we're just getting used to it or something i dont really know? i dont know whats wrong with the sex... we'll be sitting there doing it trying different styles and all that shit, is it me or her?

this is all really depressing... she told me when we first started to fool around that she orgasimed easily, but i betting that i havent ever really gotten her too. any tips or anything?

Have you tried going down on her? If not try that. If that doesn't work go buy her a small vibrator, give it to her and tell her to "experiment" with it by herself. It sounds to me like it's something in her head that she needs to work out herself. Unless the two of you are like 12 years old, then you need to stop touching her before her dad kills you.

woohoo guess what guys another question? we play around and all this shit, and i love a good bj. but when i gt some and i blow on her, she just always wants to stop, what do i need to do to get the orgasim, do i get it from sex, or if she keeps going or what. ive always been able to blow but not orgasim again some tips, new suggestions comments anything...

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haha ive talked to her about this, she just kinda avoids it and says that she doesnt know why and that she loves the feeling and all that anyway, so basically dont stop.. i have gone down on her, and i have asked her straight up, why do you get a vibrator. hell ive gotten so desperate ive even asked her to just play withherself and let me watch and take tips, and to this of course she said no it was ackward and"she just couldnt do that" i get a good impression that she almost never masturbates, never really has. and shes also not interested in much kinky sex no anal anything like that.

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WHAT ?

Btw. you can always get a photo of Kanzen or Latinos ass.. Maybe that will help ?
J/K

Hope it will work out.

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Kanzen, what the hell is that? I don't get it.

Issues man. How old is this girl - if young, could be she's inexperienced and maybe scared of how her body is responding. Or... could be a tramatic experience she's had but isin't comfortable sharing with you quite yet...

Just some guesses.

It sounds to me like you've got some issues to resolve - most noticably communication: Ask yourself why are you searching for answers about this in a chat room with a bunch of strangers who don't know you or your girl? The person who can answer your question best is your girl. Talk to her man.

does she have self-image issues? try to be supportive and understanding with her for the short term, try a few new things, talk to her and find out what she likes, basicly give her every opportunity to "discover" her orgasm. however, after a period of time, maybe a couple months, if nothing changes sexually and you still feel unsatisfied and you're not crazy in love with this girl, kick her to the curb and find someone else. from your description she sounds a little cold in bed. i made the mistake of dating a girl like that for almost 6 years. in 6 years, she had 1 orgasm with me. i know it wasn't me because since her i have been with more women than i can count and have never had that problem with anyone else. so, give her a chance, be patient, get feedback from her, but you're too young to waste your time on one girl who is having sexual issues. if it doesn't get better after working on it, move on....

shes 18 but she was a virgin until she met me, haha thats my probelm i have been takin to her but shes newer to all this than i am, and im kinda shy i dont relaly like goin up to my dad and sayin hey dad how do i fuck a girl? and i dont wanna ask my friends cause i dont wanna look like a loser, its embarassing to ask this stuff, and its alot easier to ask over the internet, plus i seem to be getting alot more response than from what i though, i have talked to her about this alot, it just doesnt seem to help much. of course i dont really know whats normal either... im just trying to find advice from professionals, if you guys know what i mean i donno i just kinda caim in here hoping to get advice because i havent encountered any girls like american pie, oh here this is the best way to fuck a girl do it like this and this, and my girl is so new to this she doesnt know what she likes and what she doesnt i guess shes just confused....

I guess I'll be the first to ask......you got any pics of her?

i guess that helps its kinda depressing, and your probably right about the self image issues, she has always thought she was never very pretty, but i think she is, and i know it makes me an ass but im a guy, and what guy doesnt like a with big boobs? anyway i guess im kinda left in the dust still about all this.... but i guess im stuck with the same sad disposition... practice makes perfect... but it think i will give it a couple months and if it doesnt heat up try to get myself off this girl...

actually i dont, i dont have any on my computer, haha and shes not too interested in porn haha (i couldnt help but ask) im kinda a horny dude, but whatever besides the point...

ill try to get some from her sometime soon

The age has alot to do with it...also upbringing...if her parents and or religion told her that masturbation and orgasm is a negative thing, then you have an uphill battle. If she stated that she has easy orgasmed in the past ask her how.... The other thing is that she might know how to do it to herself but cannot articulate how to tell you how to do it so she might be just letting you get her close then might have issues with having an orgasm in front of you....that is a very vulerable time for young ladies

Well have you tried a sausage McMuffin and a coffe yet?

When she starts arching her back and crap, watch her asshole. If it is twitching and shit, she's having an orgasm. If she is getting all sensitive, thats from getting off. It sounds like she doesn't know what an orgasm is. I would say she is cumming but doesn't know it.

Whelp, buckeroo, here's the way I sees it. if we had a video of her blowing you it would be much easier to get a handle on this here little filly!!!

Seriously..like has been said- talk, talk, talk!!! It sounds like you are trying. Find out why SHE thinks it isn't working. Can she get herself off alone? Get a book.. like the karma sutra.. different positions. Nothing hardcore. Does she get closer to orgasm with different positions. Prssure to cum can just make it harder. Ask her about that religeous stuff. Does she have any physical issues that might be of note? Is she worth all that!!! Oh yeah.. don't forget that vid!!!!