Not finished, but worth a read.
The Single Mans Guide To Swinging.
Yes, it actually happens.
It’s been awhile since my last post on Nina’s wonderful site, but I thought I’d come back and share more of knowledge for everyone to read. So, you’re a single guy who wants to have a more adventurous sex life? I.E. Swinging? But not sure how to get into it, since most people shun the single man? Have no fear! When I was 18 I was sleeping with a women who was 40, and lived a lifestyle called Polly Amory. Although it shares certain things with swinging, it is not the same. After that relationship ended, I want to try the thing I’d read, heard about, and seen. The first step is:
1. Don’t do this if you’re married or are in a serious relationship and are looking for a way to cheat. One of the best things about swinging is the openness and honesty of it. Don’t take away from that.
2. Be sure this something you can do. Can you perform in front of other men? For example: my first group sex experience was a Gangbang, and over the course of that evening she said she wanted two men inside her pussy. I did and was ok with it. If you’re a single man, chances are you will get to be in many Gangbangs or threesomes with a woman, and her Husband. Can you handle that?
3. Be realistic. You’re not going to having sex with a kinky college teen. Most people who live this lifestyle are going to be in there 30’s and 40’s. A few you will find are in their late 20’s. Although I love older women very much, some men, who clearly have narrow taste, do not. So if you’re looking for older women, this is great for you. Also, you might get a thrill from having sex with married women. This is ok too, as long as everything is on the “up and up”. By that I mean everyone is clear on what’s going on. I have slept with a mans wife while he was not their. That was ok for that particular couple.
4. Have something to offer. Most women who are looking for multiple men to pleasure them often request well endowed men. If you are not the biggest, then that’s ok, let them know anyways, and if you’re clean cut, and a nice person, they will probably let you in on the fun anyways. Being well endowed though is a blessing for this life style. Thank you Dad!
Now the nest big step is finding a publication that will put you in contact with like-minded people. I personally have never used swinger magazines, so I’m not sure if they really work. Instead, try to find that offbeat local publication that have personal ads and a section that allows people to contact each other for this kind of lifestyle. These kinds of ads are not that much different from your regular personal ad. You have a message in the publication, then a voice greeting. In both, state exactly what you are looking for and show that you understand that you know their needs. Like:
1. Being discreet. Most of these people have kids and/or professional careers. Understand that they, and probably you too, do not want to be telling everyone under the sun what you are going to do. Many people may not understand this way of life.
2. Some women have married Bi guys. They get turned on by watching their man fooling around with another man, and having two (or more) men pleasure them. If you are bi, great, if not, make that clear in a tactful way.
3. Give a good, and honest description of yourself. Remember, honesty is key here. Also, be a clean-cut person who takes pride in how they look. Your cloths may not stay on long, but make sure you look nice anyways.
After you make contact with a couple or perhaps a single older lady who is looking for younger boy-toy, arrange to meet somewhere where everyone is comfortable talking about these things. Try to pick a cozy little restaurant that allows for a little privacy. Some of things you should do, and will probably happen are:
1. Ask to meet both the Husband and Wife. Most will want to do this anyways, but sometimes the wife can be shy, or new to this. Convince them that they both should show up. That way she can get a feel for you. The Husband might think your great, but when it comes to the fun, there may not be anything between you and the wife.
2. You will probably be spending most of your time talking about other things. Do not force the topic. If the wife, or girlfriend, is shy. Make sure you bring her into the conversation no matter what is. This shows a great amount of respect and understanding to her needs. Because let’s face it, she’s in charge.
3. Don’t be pushy. They might show up and you’ll find that the wife is drop dread gorgeous. Since you’ll be new to this, and turned on, keep yourself calm. Your heart might be racing and you might want to take her right then there, as is if Nina herself was sitting across from you, but keep cool.
After dinner, they might want to take you home, or to a hotel right away and have fun. If that’s the case, then great! Most single older women will let you know pretty quickly if you’re going to go home with them.
Next up is the first get together.
1. Don’t be pushy. Yes, I said it again. It might start off slow, with a drink or two, but things will get started. The Lady will lead the way, so let her. This also applies to the actual sex. I talked about my first Gangbang above, and something kinky we did. But she didn’t want anything going into her anus, which included fingers. I respected her wishes, but since I love the butt so much, I asked her if I could lick her anus. She was fine with that and I did it a lot that night. On a side note, as much as I want to put my mouth everywhere on you, Nina, I really want to put my tongue there.
The Single Mans Guide To Swinging.
Yes, it actually happens.
It’s been awhile since my last post on Nina’s wonderful site, but I thought I’d come back and share more of knowledge for everyone to read. So, you’re a single guy who wants to have a more adventurous sex life? I.E. Swinging? But not sure how to get into it, since most people shun the single man? Have no fear! When I was 18 I was sleeping with a women who was 40, and lived a lifestyle called Polly Amory. Although it shares certain things with swinging, it is not the same. After that relationship ended, I want to try the thing I’d read, heard about, and seen. The first step is:
1. Don’t do this if you’re married or are in a serious relationship and are looking for a way to cheat. One of the best things about swinging is the openness and honesty of it. Don’t take away from that.
2. Be sure this something you can do. Can you perform in front of other men? For example: my first group sex experience was a Gangbang, and over the course of that evening she said she wanted two men inside her pussy. I did and was ok with it. If you’re a single man, chances are you will get to be in many Gangbangs or threesomes with a woman, and her Husband. Can you handle that?
3. Be realistic. You’re not going to having sex with a kinky college teen. Most people who live this lifestyle are going to be in there 30’s and 40’s. A few you will find are in their late 20’s. Although I love older women very much, some men, who clearly have narrow taste, do not. So if you’re looking for older women, this is great for you. Also, you might get a thrill from having sex with married women. This is ok too, as long as everything is on the “up and up”. By that I mean everyone is clear on what’s going on. I have slept with a mans wife while he was not their. That was ok for that particular couple.
4. Have something to offer. Most women who are looking for multiple men to pleasure them often request well endowed men. If you are not the biggest, then that’s ok, let them know anyways, and if you’re clean cut, and a nice person, they will probably let you in on the fun anyways. Being well endowed though is a blessing for this life style. Thank you Dad!
Now the nest big step is finding a publication that will put you in contact with like-minded people. I personally have never used swinger magazines, so I’m not sure if they really work. Instead, try to find that offbeat local publication that have personal ads and a section that allows people to contact each other for this kind of lifestyle. These kinds of ads are not that much different from your regular personal ad. You have a message in the publication, then a voice greeting. In both, state exactly what you are looking for and show that you understand that you know their needs. Like:
1. Being discreet. Most of these people have kids and/or professional careers. Understand that they, and probably you too, do not want to be telling everyone under the sun what you are going to do. Many people may not understand this way of life.
2. Some women have married Bi guys. They get turned on by watching their man fooling around with another man, and having two (or more) men pleasure them. If you are bi, great, if not, make that clear in a tactful way.
3. Give a good, and honest description of yourself. Remember, honesty is key here. Also, be a clean-cut person who takes pride in how they look. Your cloths may not stay on long, but make sure you look nice anyways.
After you make contact with a couple or perhaps a single older lady who is looking for younger boy-toy, arrange to meet somewhere where everyone is comfortable talking about these things. Try to pick a cozy little restaurant that allows for a little privacy. Some of things you should do, and will probably happen are:
1. Ask to meet both the Husband and Wife. Most will want to do this anyways, but sometimes the wife can be shy, or new to this. Convince them that they both should show up. That way she can get a feel for you. The Husband might think your great, but when it comes to the fun, there may not be anything between you and the wife.
2. You will probably be spending most of your time talking about other things. Do not force the topic. If the wife, or girlfriend, is shy. Make sure you bring her into the conversation no matter what is. This shows a great amount of respect and understanding to her needs. Because let’s face it, she’s in charge.
3. Don’t be pushy. They might show up and you’ll find that the wife is drop dread gorgeous. Since you’ll be new to this, and turned on, keep yourself calm. Your heart might be racing and you might want to take her right then there, as is if Nina herself was sitting across from you, but keep cool.
After dinner, they might want to take you home, or to a hotel right away and have fun. If that’s the case, then great! Most single older women will let you know pretty quickly if you’re going to go home with them.
Next up is the first get together.
1. Don’t be pushy. Yes, I said it again. It might start off slow, with a drink or two, but things will get started. The Lady will lead the way, so let her. This also applies to the actual sex. I talked about my first Gangbang above, and something kinky we did. But she didn’t want anything going into her anus, which included fingers. I respected her wishes, but since I love the butt so much, I asked her if I could lick her anus. She was fine with that and I did it a lot that night. On a side note, as much as I want to put my mouth everywhere on you, Nina, I really want to put my tongue there.
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