Relationships

Question for any & all.

Do you stay in a marriage (w/children) when you are no longer happy and not getting anything out of the marriage? Especially, when you have been seeing someone on the side.

Nope.

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Originally posted by rainbowdemon

Nope.

same answer here

If you're seeing someone on the side - its over.

if the feelings arent the same or there....i think staying for the kids is bad.

kids need there parents in a healthy relationship, if that means two happy parents living in different houses, so be it....but having both in the same house shouting, cursing and hating each other is just terrible and not healthy for the kids

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Originally posted by Latino

if the feelings arent the same or there....i think staying for the kids is bad.

kids need there parents in a healthy relationship, if that means two happy parents living in different houses, so be it....but having both in the same house shouting, cursing and hating each other is just terrible and not healthy for the kids

I COULDNT OF SAID IT BETTER!!

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Originally posted by Latino

if the feelings arent the same or there....i think staying for the kids is bad.

kids need there parents in a healthy relationship, if that means two happy parents living in different houses, so be it....but having both in the same house shouting, cursing and hating each other is just terrible and not healthy for the kids

just hear him.... great answer Latino

Youve already left. Make sure its what you want. If your taking your spouse for the granted keep in mind once theyre gone.....they're gone! some people occasionally cheat and stay together for a long time. Like that Richard Gere movie...what is it? Betrayal?

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Originally posted by mistral

just hear him.... great answer Latino

i have been known to be wise once every 10 years or so

I don't know your situation, but is there a chance of turning things around? Have you both tried? Avoid the "grass is greener" lure. If the marriage is kaput, take time to re-adjust to life before taking on another relationship. Learn from the mistakes before repeating them. ( I've been a single dad for 10 yrs.)

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Originally posted by zztopp

I don't know your situation, but is there a chance of turning things around? Have you both tried? Avoid the "grass is greener" lure. If the marriage is kaput, take time to re-adjust to life before taking on another relationship. Learn from the mistakes before repeating them. ( I've been a single dad for 10 yrs.)

thats some pretty good advice there too

why don't you work it out for your kids sake... I've about had it with the fucking divorce rate and the idiot parents who were apparently close enough and loved each other enough to have kids.. or did you in the first place? Seriously, divorce is fucking brutal... you owe it to them to sit down with your wife and have a good heart to heart talk, if your just after pussy... your a fucking disgrace for a father. I'm blunt.. but this shit is getting out of hand if you ask me.

I also would have to recommend seeking serious help and not asking a porn forum for help in serious matters like this. I feel sorry for your children.

Divorce is only brutal for the kids if the parents make it that way. Staying together in a bad marriage can be much more brutal.

How about a different opinion. Marriage is forever. It's HARD WORK. Nobody who gets married any more realizes that it is a commitment to one person for the rest of your life, not till you get tired of trying. Maybe people should take more care in whom they marry. Divorce is as common now as catching a cold, but that doesn't make it right. People don't realize the amount of WORK that goes into a marriage. It is the hardest thing anyone can choose to do. So work at your marriage, don't throw it away. Remember what was once a beautiful thing, and remember why, then be prepared for more WORK, with a reward unmatched by anything. Saying "I've been married for 50 years" is an accomplishment few can claim.

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Originally posted by Vagrant

I also would have to recommend seeking serious help and not asking a porn forum for help in serious matters like this. I feel sorry for your children.

He's right. This is NOT the place to ask for guidence.

no, what latino said.. and yeah latino can be wise just like me..

I think most of the time when a member comes to us with a serious question most of the members do a pretty good job in giving advice or an honest opinion.

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Originally posted by HighGuy

I think most of the time when a member comes to us with a serious question most of the members do a pretty good job in giving advice or an honest opinion.

If your advise is to get the divorce, then it's not good advise. Advise like that should be handed down from a marriage counseler, who know the whole story, not a one line question. But I'll agree that people do get honest opinions from us.

I'm 46 and never married. My Mom is 70 and has been wanting to divorce Dad for the last 25 years. They haven't spoken for 15-20 years. dad is drunk and doesn't have a clue. I want them to divorce so each can start to lead a life not filled with tension and hate. (my brother and sister are not married either)....and I have NO nude shots of my sister, so don't ask

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Originally posted by HighGuy

I think most of the time when a member comes to us with a serious question most of the members do a pretty good job in giving advice or an honest opinion.

thats pretty true..
we can be honest and serious with our answers as long as its not about religion or politics..