Fear keeps a lot of us from having more sex
it's completely individual.. like everything else...
flings... one-night stands... are cool from time to time... when your life turns into a one-night stand...
well.. then surface takes over from substance... and life becomes surface...
some people like to live like that...
well... most people...
I have tried both ways of healing from bad relationships, work on yourself first dude! If you are not happy and healthy than fucking everything with legs is just going to make you feel even more empty inside!
poorandugly76 16 years ago
1: Go on vacation somewhere with your buddies.
2: Find an older woman "Mid 40's" in a bar with her girlfriends.
3: Strike up a conversation with her.
4: Screw her brains out for about 4 hours.
5: If your lucky she will look you up again before she leaves to back home and screw your brains out for about 4 hours.
6: The best part of all, wont ever see her again.
7: Dont be silly and wrap your willie!!!!!!!!
Dont keep yourself in a shell because you think you need time to heal , all you'll do is sit there and think of her and feel bad on why shit happened. Get out and mingle with people , I dunno if you drink but going for beers with some buds is a great place to start. Expecting a one-night stand every time you head out will lead you to disappointment. Ive had a few and was always up and willing for it , but for me they seem to be far in between. On the other hand , Ive went out and met girls at random places , took them out had some good times and had plenty of sex with them. I was never lonely. Plus the benefit of getting to know them a little better and knowing they arent sick with an STD makes the sex that much better. Im no sexpert , but I guess I have more experience than you with 40+ women under my belt , literally..I am 27 now and have been in a relationship for 4 years now , there has been a few girls added to the list during breakups and such but I know what I have and its what I like...I personally dont buy a car without test driving it first!!! So get out there to a few dealerships , hop in one , drive it around for awhile and dont sign your name until you are completely satisfied with the driving experience.
AIDS is a big issue.
Personally, sex is sorta sex. I've had great sex. I've had not so great. As a guy, I enjoyed both. But it always always better with someone I cared about....someone who knew what I liked and knew how to push the right buttons. I always found the first time with new people was generally a little awkward. Maybe that is just me.
If you wanna have a screwfest, have one. But honestly, it isn't going to make you feel better. Banging strangers isn't moving on.
Famous line from the movie Casablanca, Rick, Bogie's character says, "I pass judgment on nobody".
Another thought, "When you're hungry, eat!"
My point is just live your life. If some cute things want to party, do it. As long as they are of age and you both want to, go for it.
Sometimes, some great relationships and or friendships can come out of what you both thought was just a quick romp in the hay.
So live your life and don't pass judgment.
When it's over, it's over.
Move on and live your life.
I gotta agree with Swiss. When you fall off your horse, get back on the son of a bitch.
Go out and get laid. And get on with it. Don't be a pussy. Swiss is right, you guys cut
out all the Dr. Phil shit. This guy needs to stand up to life.
I agree with the Dr. Phil shit "Heal yourself first" ...For me , healing was going out and having a great time without the ball and chain on my back...Doesnt necessarily have to end in sex , but if it makes you forget about the ex , then youre "Healed!"...Of course during my healing a one night stand happened , then a girl who just loved to give BJ's happened , and then I met a really good girl who I actually spent a lot of time with and was someone that I couldve spent more time with happened...Plus she had a bangin body and was crazy about me , yes I did bang her too..Plenty of times...ahhhh..All this happened in a months time!! My ex found out how much fun I was having a wanted me back , and we have been happy ever since..no regrets and I told her everything I did so I didnt have to hide anything...We all heal in different ways , some bang chicks , some climb clock towers and open fire...Just dont let someone else make you miserable when they could give a shit about how you feel!!!
yeah...get out with people and enjoy yourself. but just be on guard against psychochicks. there's alot of them around.