StretchNutz had a thread just a day ago that prompted me to write this.
While I just got done reading the One Night Stand thread, it prompted me to enlighten the men of the board that I know are married and still wonder from time to time. I will openly admit, I have as well as others that I am sure still do.. I think it's only natural to an extent. Maybe it's a genetic disposition we fall in or something, but men thrive on the chase...
Now allow me to lay down the guidelines for a successful fling wether it be for a mere night only or an on going affair... Not to say this is morally correct or acceptable but it is however a part of life and more often than not more than an average amount of men find themselves in this kind of situation..
Rule # 1: Always be 100% honest with the other person. A fling is not someone you need to or should hide anything from. If you lay it out on the table up front, then there is no misunderstandings... Wether you're envolved, or seperated, divorcing, married, engaged, boyfriend & girlfriend, etc... This is always going to be the most important part of a successful fling..
Rule # 2: Alway's keep your business private. This includes never telling ANYONE other than the other woman envolved. The less amount of dirt that people know the less of a possibility your chances of getting caught become. This will also work to your advantage in the event that you have a snag and end up getting caught. If your significant other finds out about the fling, well it always fall back on the one closest to you that ended up slipping up. For all intense purposes, you must protect your best friends as well as your significant other. This will also help mend the relationship if you sincerely want to reconsile.... Remember she will hate your friends if she know's or knew that they aided you into it. You must plan accordingly. Never envolve a friend or associate to aid you in your business.. This keeps sole responsibility on you and you will be aloud to keep your close friends if it works out..
Rule # 3: Never keep it close to home. Best friends of your significant other ARE OFF LIMITS. No matter how hot she may be or how bad you know she want's a piece of you. It is for you own benefit in the long run... !!! The friends closest to your significant other will generally be drawn towards you, because your woman like's to brag about her sex life whenever she can. This sprouts curiousity within the close circle of friends.. Trust me, it happens more often than you may realize...
Rule # 4: Never leave a paper trail... No matter how many time's guy's & girls hear this they never seem to take it serious.. If there is a paper trail, it will come back on you.. Never use your credit card, simply get cash back on your card if need be. You can justify using the cash to help out a friend or needing something for yourself, but if your statement comes in and you're not there to get the mail and she opens it up and see's that you've spent a few hundred on a hotel room for the afternoon or at an exquizit restaraunt.. well then let's just say you deserve to be caught.... This also applies to any form of hand written letters or notes.. Thats a HUGE NO NO !!!
Rule # 5: Keep it simple.... Be yourself and be very open to your wants and reason's. You tend to attract women that may be looking at the same thing you have in mind if you follow this rule... Most women will appreciate the honesty first and foremost..
Rule # 6: Keep your priorities in order... Remember, she is a fling. Nothing more and nothing else. Just something to fill a sexual void. Don't go running off thinking your in love over a few nights of sexual fun with this new woman. You have someone who you've invested yourself with, always seperate your heart from your stomach so to speak..
Rule # 7: Fullfill your fantasy. Sine you've chosen to stray.. Why not play it out in character and role ? You are taking a huge risk, make sure the risk is worth the reward. Don't go run and put your dick in someone just to knock it down with. Use the opportunity to explore your sexual desire. This will make a much more fullfilling fling..
Rule # 8: Never get to close... If you start to get close then it's time to let go. This is the hardest rule in the game to follow. Especially for the men that are cheating with someone significantly more attractive than their current mate. Remember it's a physical attraction, but she may not fill the needs of your current mate.. Always keep it in perspective... !
Rule # 9: Always use your real first name and always use a fake last name. That way if she calls for you by your name you are more likely to respond then to tip her off that you've lyed about your name. I have done this too many times and blown it because of it...
Rule # 10: This is the final rule in my book. ALWAYS maintain enough of yourself to be able to still fill the needs of your woman at home. The more attention she gets the less likely you are at ever getting caught. Trust me !!! I dont care if you just had sex for 3 hours straight.. When you come home you better be ready for it even if she does not want it. This will help ease her suspission if any. Also never shower before leaving and coming home.. Yes you wash your dick, but you never wash off your body's natural scent. Women always look for this smell when you come home.. You wash yourself in a sink with a warm hand cloth. use light soap. This way your body's natural sweat and smell from your underware will come back by the time you get home. this is a very essential rule to follow. Remember you are now living a double life. you must be able to split yourself into 2 personalities. If you can't do this.. you get caught... plain and simple..... don't pamper a fling. It is merely sex, keep it that way. You pamper your significant other... remember to split your time up evenly and always keep your significant other infront of everything else....
Follow these simple rules and I promise you will never get caught... I may not have a peice of paper crediting me for being a fling expert but let's just say I have travelled alot more than most men my age and I have a pretty succesful track record to date..
While I just got done reading the One Night Stand thread, it prompted me to enlighten the men of the board that I know are married and still wonder from time to time. I will openly admit, I have as well as others that I am sure still do.. I think it's only natural to an extent. Maybe it's a genetic disposition we fall in or something, but men thrive on the chase...
Now allow me to lay down the guidelines for a successful fling wether it be for a mere night only or an on going affair... Not to say this is morally correct or acceptable but it is however a part of life and more often than not more than an average amount of men find themselves in this kind of situation..
Rule # 1: Always be 100% honest with the other person. A fling is not someone you need to or should hide anything from. If you lay it out on the table up front, then there is no misunderstandings... Wether you're envolved, or seperated, divorcing, married, engaged, boyfriend & girlfriend, etc... This is always going to be the most important part of a successful fling..
Rule # 2: Alway's keep your business private. This includes never telling ANYONE other than the other woman envolved. The less amount of dirt that people know the less of a possibility your chances of getting caught become. This will also work to your advantage in the event that you have a snag and end up getting caught. If your significant other finds out about the fling, well it always fall back on the one closest to you that ended up slipping up. For all intense purposes, you must protect your best friends as well as your significant other. This will also help mend the relationship if you sincerely want to reconsile.... Remember she will hate your friends if she know's or knew that they aided you into it. You must plan accordingly. Never envolve a friend or associate to aid you in your business.. This keeps sole responsibility on you and you will be aloud to keep your close friends if it works out..
Rule # 3: Never keep it close to home. Best friends of your significant other ARE OFF LIMITS. No matter how hot she may be or how bad you know she want's a piece of you. It is for you own benefit in the long run... !!! The friends closest to your significant other will generally be drawn towards you, because your woman like's to brag about her sex life whenever she can. This sprouts curiousity within the close circle of friends.. Trust me, it happens more often than you may realize...
Rule # 4: Never leave a paper trail... No matter how many time's guy's & girls hear this they never seem to take it serious.. If there is a paper trail, it will come back on you.. Never use your credit card, simply get cash back on your card if need be. You can justify using the cash to help out a friend or needing something for yourself, but if your statement comes in and you're not there to get the mail and she opens it up and see's that you've spent a few hundred on a hotel room for the afternoon or at an exquizit restaraunt.. well then let's just say you deserve to be caught.... This also applies to any form of hand written letters or notes.. Thats a HUGE NO NO !!!
Rule # 5: Keep it simple.... Be yourself and be very open to your wants and reason's. You tend to attract women that may be looking at the same thing you have in mind if you follow this rule... Most women will appreciate the honesty first and foremost..
Rule # 6: Keep your priorities in order... Remember, she is a fling. Nothing more and nothing else. Just something to fill a sexual void. Don't go running off thinking your in love over a few nights of sexual fun with this new woman. You have someone who you've invested yourself with, always seperate your heart from your stomach so to speak..
Rule # 7: Fullfill your fantasy. Sine you've chosen to stray.. Why not play it out in character and role ? You are taking a huge risk, make sure the risk is worth the reward. Don't go run and put your dick in someone just to knock it down with. Use the opportunity to explore your sexual desire. This will make a much more fullfilling fling..
Rule # 8: Never get to close... If you start to get close then it's time to let go. This is the hardest rule in the game to follow. Especially for the men that are cheating with someone significantly more attractive than their current mate. Remember it's a physical attraction, but she may not fill the needs of your current mate.. Always keep it in perspective... !
Rule # 9: Always use your real first name and always use a fake last name. That way if she calls for you by your name you are more likely to respond then to tip her off that you've lyed about your name. I have done this too many times and blown it because of it...
Rule # 10: This is the final rule in my book. ALWAYS maintain enough of yourself to be able to still fill the needs of your woman at home. The more attention she gets the less likely you are at ever getting caught. Trust me !!! I dont care if you just had sex for 3 hours straight.. When you come home you better be ready for it even if she does not want it. This will help ease her suspission if any. Also never shower before leaving and coming home.. Yes you wash your dick, but you never wash off your body's natural scent. Women always look for this smell when you come home.. You wash yourself in a sink with a warm hand cloth. use light soap. This way your body's natural sweat and smell from your underware will come back by the time you get home. this is a very essential rule to follow. Remember you are now living a double life. you must be able to split yourself into 2 personalities. If you can't do this.. you get caught... plain and simple..... don't pamper a fling. It is merely sex, keep it that way. You pamper your significant other... remember to split your time up evenly and always keep your significant other infront of everything else....
Follow these simple rules and I promise you will never get caught... I may not have a peice of paper crediting me for being a fling expert but let's just say I have travelled alot more than most men my age and I have a pretty succesful track record to date..
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