how to give her an orgasm??

well somw advice on this...
She never has an orgasm, while we are having sex...

So, please, what I can do to make it more pleasurable for her??

First and simplest thing to do...Ask her, in order to have a good long term relationship, you need to be able to communicate anyway, and what works for some women won't necessarily work for other women...

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Originally posted by Demodad68

First and simplest thing to do...Ask her, in order to have a good long term relationship, you need to be able to communicate anyway, and what works for some women won't necessarily work for other women...

Well. she is no really comfortable discussinf things like that.

I used to have sex with girls, that although some times they did not have orgasma, at least they were taking pleasure from it. Unforunately, it seems that she is a bit uncomfortable with it

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what do you mean?

The first response is the easiest/best answer.

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Originally posted by tommorowneverknows

So, please, what I can do to make it more pleasurable for her??

Send her my way, I'll make it more pleasurable for her

Get her one of these.

http://www.sybian.com

Ok, I'm not a sex therapist or anything but, talking, or at least you listening, not necessarily to what she says, since you say she is uncomfortable talking about it, but to what her body says is important. If she is uncomfortable doing it also, well, no technique or anything you try is gonna work, until you are able to get her more comfortable. bottom line, there is not really a quick fix for this, you have to communicate so that she is more relaxed and can enjoy herself...

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The first response is the easiest/best answer.

whenever we have started a conversation about this, she says that sh enjoys it. But it is obvious that she doesn't! i really love har and i don;t want to be me the only one that gets pleasure from sex...

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Originally posted by Demodad68

Ok, I'm not a sex therapist or anything but, talking, or at least you listening, not necessarily to what she says, since you say she is uncomfortable talking about it, but to what her body says is important. If she is uncomfortable doing it also, well, no technique or anything you try is gonna work, until you are able to get her more comfortable. bottom line, there is not really a quick fix for this, you have to communicate so that she is more relaxed and can enjoy herself...

thank you for the advice!

From her body language what i get is that, almost always she is a bit on pain during sex. And she gives the impression that she does it only for me

She might not get pleasure from penetration, or perhaps is so un-relaxed and tense that she just doesn't enjoy it. Like Demo said, she'll never fully enjoy it unless she learns to relax.

Does she enjoy when you give her oral?

Post a few pictures of her...I will then be able to tailor an educated response that might be able to help you out.

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Originally posted by Demodad68

First and simplest thing to do...Ask her, in order to have a good long term relationship, you need to be able to communicate anyway, and what works for some women won't necessarily work for other women...

Great answer...

you know when we are together, kissing and stuff like that, I feel she is turned on. It is when it is about to have actual sex, that she starts to be more reserved...

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Originally posted by tommorowneverknows

you know when we are together, kissing and stuff like that, I feel she is turned on. It is when it is about to have actual sex, that she starts to be more reserved...

She sounds like my 1st ex-wife. I know you really don't want to hear this,
I'll say it anyway, run as fast as you can into the next love of your life.

First things first, let's get some backround to find out if it's her or you. How long does forplay last? Do you give her oral?

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She sounds like my 1st ex-wife. I know you really don't want to hear this,
I'll say it anyway, run as fast as you can into the next love of your life.

I am not leaving her!!
She is really really pretty and a very nice girl!

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I am not leaving her!!
She is really really pretty and a very nice girl!

I understand that I thought the same thing of the 1st ex. (Just trying to help.)

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She might not get pleasure from penetration, or perhaps is so un-relaxed and tense that she just doesn't enjoy it. Like Demo said, she'll never fully enjoy it unless she learns to relax.

Does she enjoy when you give her oral?

Well it is about 1.5 years that we are together, but she has not really started to be mor relaxed wheb it comes to sex.

As for oral, she seems to enjoy it, but not to the point she has an orgasm. And to be honest I am not really comfortable to do that to her. I had 4 ex-girlfriends, they were all smooth. She has a forest down there... I am not saying that i don't like that, but when it comes to oral, it is not the best thing in the world